What are you willing to give up?

I cannot be the only person in the world who is having a hard time with adjusting to this economy.  From the looks of the parking lots at the malls, I am starting to think I just might be.  Never have I seen more cars outside of a mall on a Tuesday of all days.  You can't turn on the television, radio or internet and not see or hear a story regarding the economy.  Folks are losing their jobs, unemployment rates are steady, and don't EVEN get me started on the housing market.  Gas is high, utility bills are high, food is high, and products and or services we once didn't blink an eye at purchasing are now in the "do I really NEED THIS" column. 
Its rough out here ladies and gentlemen.  Even those of us who have been gainfully employed and good at what we do, are now...for lack of a better terms, ASS OUT.  Out of work.
I lost my job back on June 23, 2010.  Not too big of a deal for people in my industry
(urban  commercial radio) where  you can be fired and dropped like a bad habit, even if you are good at what you do, even if you are popular, even if you are considered one of the best in the industry.  The reason behind my dismissal? that old.....going in another direction excuse and THAT DIRECTION? Just so happened once again, didn't include my black ass!  With so many of us in my industry, I had to sit out for 6 months on a
non compete clause in my contract, which meant, until Christmas Eve, I couldn't work within a 30 mile radius of where I broadcast from..Unless I wanted to pack up my kid and move to God knows where to work, I had to, NOT do what I have spent half of my adult life doing, being a radio personality. Christmas has come and gone and the new year has begun, and I am still out of work. But this time by choice.  I choose to look at my years of experience, and talent and explore the option of taking my winning brand  of Olivia Fox and going in my own, DIFFERENT DIRECTION.Unfortunately.... that different direction has not  yet afforded me the lifestyle and income I have become accustomed to over the past 10 years..Like so many others, I have had to learn to cut back  I have had to really think....what am I willing to give up?
If you are like me, faced with cutting back on your products and services, this has been a grueling adjustment.  However after you get the hang of it, you soon realize, a lot of the crap you and I have?... and alot of the crap you and I want?...YOU AND I DONT NEED!  Its funny how one of the worse things happening to you can actually make YOU a better YOU. Is this a NEED or a WANT?  If its a want? I have learned to give it up.  If it is a NEED, I budget and instead of getting  it on a whim, I give it thought first.
.Its been tough, because Olivia doesnt do the...  (HOLD UP..... DID.I JUST SPEAK IN 3RD PERSON?) I hate  it when people do that,  it is so EXTRA to me, you have CLEARLY LOST IT WHEN YOU ARE SPEAKING OF YOURSELF IN 3RD PERSON! LET ME COME BACK DOWN TO EARTH.. sorry I tripped for a minute...I say ALL THIS TO SAY.... rather you are feeling the pinch of this economy or not, rather you are making 6 figures or better or apart of the working poor living check to check... we can all  stand to ask ourselves?  DO I REALLY NEED THESE THINGS?  I had to ask myself, do I really need a facial once a month?, my nails done every 2 weeks?  My hair DID every 2 weeks WAIT ..HOLD UP AGAIN..I AM LYING... even when I was working and getting money, I didnt see my hairdresser but every 6 to 8 weeks. I was good for slapping on a wig or jelling back my nappy edges with the good pre con gel
(if you aren't black you are not going to have any idea what Im talking about, but just ask one of your black girlfriends what pre con is, you will be shocked at her facial expression when you ask her)LOL.... I had to ask myself do I really need a new car when the one Im driving is paid for? Do I really need
ANOTHER LIPSTICK FROM MAC? 
But dont get it twisted folks, there is one thing I am not willing to give up and that is... my BIKINI WAX...
I dont care if I have to go up in spa with PENNY ROLLS....
IM GONE GET MY BRAZILLIAN WAX, shooooooot.... a girl has to have one vice(smile)
OK....WRAP..... IT...... UP..... in closing, just know, you are not alone, this economy is rough and its making everything including the edges of my hair rough as well, but you will find just as I have, that some of those things you have had to give up....needed to be given u.  And when I get back up on my feet with the streams of revenue generating on the level it once did, I will be happy that this temporary time of financial adjustment has taught me several  lessons, one being the most important, the differences between wants and needs. And I now know, what I am capable of giving up and by learning that ,I have also learned many of those things,
I didn't really NEED anyway.
As always I ask you,  what good is money and success? if your hair is a hot dam mess!
Get life People!!.... this ain't no dress rehearsal.

Is sex overrated?

So yesterday a friend and I were discussing the importance of  a good healthy sex life.  I told him I heard a female friend once  say,"sex is overrated Olivia."  And I asked him what he thought about that?  I always find it so interesting how men and women see things so differently.  It reminds me of the childhood game we used to play called telephone.  Remember that game?  You would all sit in a circle and the initial message would be written down and the person who thought of it would whisper to the person next to them . The message would be shared around the circle to each person.  By the time the  nessage got to the final person and  said out loud, it would always be a different message from the original.  I think alot of it has to do with the way we hear things as men and women and the way we decipher , perceive, and relate to different things. 
Why would sex be any different? For so many women we tend to be emotional beings. meaning a great deal of us, not all, but quite a few of us have  caught  feelings based on sex  and as a result view sex with an individual from an emotional state.  Where as men, and though  I have never had testicales....connected to me... although last Friday night while walking through a restaurant I heard a man say to his girl... look... thats a dude.  I  thought. to myself..... I know yo bitch ass aint talking to me!!!
 (sorry.... Im trying to get away from cursing but sometimes BITCH ASS is just so fitting for some men.) But then I thought about it ,and most dragqueens are FIERCE, so I must have been looking good that night.  See.... his  bitch ass thought he was  really doing something and I took that away  from him.... WIT YO ,PUNKASS!!!  Any who....I digress....
 I told you I have ADD, where was I?....yeah .....so errr ruh.... Many men look at sex as a physical thing.  Thats why when some men cheat they really believe it  when they tell their significant other, baby....she didn't MEAN ANYTHING because it was just a physical act.  So.... we view sex differently.  But to say sex is overrrated in my opinion, that woman has not had the JOY,of being with a sexual partner who leaves you KNOWING....SEX IS IMPORTANT!. Are you serious?overated?  really?  so.... having a healthy connection with the person you are with is not important?  Its apart of THE  intimacy that you share with someone and if it is not enjoyable or WORTH IT, whats the point?   In order to truly enjoy the art of sex one must  be in touch with their own sexuality, you must be comfortable in your own skin.  Many women have body image issues.  If you dont love your body ,how can you expect for someone else to?  You also must know what you like ,without being too graphic and pornish...(not a word but you feel me) Its so important to KNOW what it takes to take you there.  So if you are not experiencing that, you can very well share your wants and needs wtih your partner.  Now.... Im not saying there arent other things just as important...
 for example....J O B.... NEGATIVE HIV TEST.....NOT LIVING WITH YO MOMMA....BEING DAM NEAR 40 AND COMPETING IN  A MADDEN TOURNAMENT, MISSING TEETH.....
 THE IMPORTANT ONES... IN THE FRONT... ummm....
did I say J O B.......Look...f you lack sexual compatibility, those thangs that were CUTE when you first started dating will be ON YO NERVES.  Dont believe me? Ask any married man, is it true if your wife is happy EVERYONE IS HAPPY.  But if she is not?.... then NO ONE IS.  Sex is overrated?..... IS IT?...
 what do you think.?  Well if you ask me..... IT IS NOT......IT IS.... WHAT YOU THINK IT IS based on the kind of sex you have had and/or having. 
Look....thats my 2 cents....ny fingers hurt...
 As always. in closing .....I ask you?
What good is money and success if YOUR hair is a HOT DAM  mess?
 GET LIFE BABY....this aint no dress rehersal.

The Jump Off

Ok....so FINALLY.... I have done it.... IM BLOGGING...go me....get busy....im blogging...get busy.....
Yeah so.... let me set a few ground rules for this thang.  Although for the past 20 some years I have worked in the radio industry.  So I can  honestly say... I am a professional communicator. But many of you may not know, that I consider my self a writer as well.  But one thing you will find, many writers, write as they think folk will  read.  Meaning they may have a thought or concept... think about it and put it in a format that is palatable to readers.  I on the other hand, am a verbal communicator, I WRITE AS I SPEAK!! which means when you are reading these rants, thoughts, opinions, it will really be as if you are listening to me speak, because I write as I speak.  Sometimes I may not be grammatically correct, sometimes I may be LOUD AND WRONG, and sometimes I may slip a profanity in  here and there.  THO... it is worth mentioning I am working towards eliminating profanity from my dialogue.  To me, it is just so disrespectful to hear a beautiful educated woman curse.  Its like.... COME ON..... HO.... you cant do no better than that?.(smile)see..... I cracked a funny.  Anywho.... to make a long story more boring.... I write as I speak. It is also worth mentioning I suffer from ADD... meaning Its hard for me to focus at times on one subject matter, Ill think of something else and go off on another situation  I will jump subjects.... but trust.... eventually  I'll circle back.  JUST WORK WITH ME PEOPLE.... I am  medicated for my ADD I just dont like taking it.  so I am a work in progress.  Anywho....my fingers hurt. let me put the brakes on this thang.  I will try to write daily but..... knowing my lazy ass like I do.;.. that won't last long.  But I will do my best to keep it regular.... I appreciate all the love support and letters of encouragement, you all are the reason why I have made this step into the world of blogging.... If you all didn't think, even after all these years, that I still matter, that what I have to say is still relevant,  I wouldn't  have anyone to blog too.  So..... thank you and tell a friend.... there is now a place for you to go to get YOUR FOX FIX.....right here oh and on my website www.oliviafox.com and on twitter at  oliviafoxradio.
SHAMELESS PLUG.......REMEMBER....what sense is money and success.... if your hair is a mess. 
GET LIFE BABY....this aint no dress rehearsal!!!