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- Olivia Fox
- I am a believer in God, a mother, a daughter, a sister and friend. I am purpose driven with intentions of inspiring, provoking thought and dialogue while motivating and changing lives GLOBALLY...
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: No hope for the hopeless
The Olivia Fox Fix: No hope for the hopeless: Setting yourself on fire outside in the middle of rush hour in a thriving city. a neighborhood "watchman" murders a child a few b...
No hope for the hopeless
Setting yourself on fire outside in the middle of rush hour in a thriving city. a neighborhood "watchman" murders a child a few blocks from his home, going on a high speed chase with your 1 year child who sitting in the backseat, and being shot and killed as a result. A multi family mass murder/suicide, and the continuous acts of mass shootings in public places. They all sound like scenes in a motion picture, but tragically all these events have happened and will continue to happen everyday in real life.
These various tragedies have left me feeling so disturbed, troubled, beyond sad, anxious, and worried. I wonder during and after each tragedy what has gone SO WRONG that leaves people to the point of hopelessness?
I mean really, just when you think you have heard the most gruesome, horrendous, senseless act of violence, along comes yet another horror show. How does it come to this?
What has happened within people, in their souls and spirit, that they choose to believe the ONLY clear resolution is to kill oneself and in many instances others? When I think of hopelessness I tend to think of a multi generational epidemic where many have learned our morals, values, adult behavior and logic from the environment we grew up in and/or those around us. For some, if you were raised in a hopeless environment, where everyone around has lost the ability to see beyond their present situation, living day to day, with no idea nor expectation of things turning around,sometimes this can cause you to view things hopeless as well.
I can not remember hearing of such non stop madness. I have to consider the times we are living in, where it may seem like more things are happening simply because when anything happens ANYWHERE before you can formulate an emotion to deal with it, it is everywhere, IN YOUR FACE, instantly, and GRAPHICALLY, thanks to technology.
Why are so many people angry, sad, depressed, defeated, and literally walking shells of a living, thriving, human beings?
Is it the stress we are faced with, trying to do the simplest things? For instance, taking your kids to an amusement park. The drive there, stressful, the parking, stressful, the lines, stressful, the over pricing of everything, while the income in most households has dropped significantly. Stress has caused some people to lack the ability to cope constructively. The ability to cope has escaped many of us. It is easier for some to explode, become angry, livid even, and end up in a confrontation. We recently saw a pack of motorcyclist chase a car down and pull the driver from the car and beat him nearly to death in front of his wife and CHILD IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Again, televised all over the world...
Many people have lost it all, with only their minds in tact. And if ONE MORE ANYTHING happens that's IT! another front page story, another youtube multi million hit video.VIRAL VIOLENCE! What can we do to get back to logic, clarity in common situations and scenarios? Self medicate? After the stimulants wear off, IF they ever wear off, the problem, the situation, the stress triggers are still there.
I saw it in myself, and I literally had to step back and take control of my own well being and state of mind, and learn how to better deal and cope, pray even. I think a great many of us are right on the edge, and if we don't collectively make an effort within our circles to have a dialogue on this subject, along with the state of mental illness and mental health, we are doomed to become a society that will be consumed with violence. Sadly one day we each may experience acts violence within our own homes, neighborhoods, within our families, our jobs, our children's schools, or TO US.
I hope someone will read this and think "you know, I agree, we have to do something." Look, I get it, many don't believe one person can make a difference and perhaps save a life. It would definitely be unrealistic to think you can save the entire world, but to take the time to just say something to someone you see hurting, and let them know, "hey man... hey friend, you are not alone.We all go through storms, what is important is to not allow a temporary situation cause you to make a permanent decision." Take it a step further, if you see or know someone who you KNOW without a doubt has some disturbing or odd behavior going on, let someone know, somebody, ANYBODY that will listen.
Imagine having to say AFTER THE FACT, "you know, I knew he or she wasn't right," I am certain having to say THAT has to be something that would affect you for the rest of your life. Many see things happen, hear about things happening and think, that doesn't have anything to do with me so let me keep it moving. You could be that 1 person who unknowingly can make the difference, in a life and death situation.
All I know, we have to care and we must continue to believe we won't all become complacent and desensitized to this violence. The day we are not phased nor emotionally affected by the brutal, horrendous acts of violence that continue to plague our society THIS, WILL BE THE DAY THE ENTIRE RACE OF MAN WILL HAVE BECOME...hopeless.
These various tragedies have left me feeling so disturbed, troubled, beyond sad, anxious, and worried. I wonder during and after each tragedy what has gone SO WRONG that leaves people to the point of hopelessness?
I mean really, just when you think you have heard the most gruesome, horrendous, senseless act of violence, along comes yet another horror show. How does it come to this?
What has happened within people, in their souls and spirit, that they choose to believe the ONLY clear resolution is to kill oneself and in many instances others? When I think of hopelessness I tend to think of a multi generational epidemic where many have learned our morals, values, adult behavior and logic from the environment we grew up in and/or those around us. For some, if you were raised in a hopeless environment, where everyone around has lost the ability to see beyond their present situation, living day to day, with no idea nor expectation of things turning around,sometimes this can cause you to view things hopeless as well.
I can not remember hearing of such non stop madness. I have to consider the times we are living in, where it may seem like more things are happening simply because when anything happens ANYWHERE before you can formulate an emotion to deal with it, it is everywhere, IN YOUR FACE, instantly, and GRAPHICALLY, thanks to technology.
Why are so many people angry, sad, depressed, defeated, and literally walking shells of a living, thriving, human beings?
Is it the stress we are faced with, trying to do the simplest things? For instance, taking your kids to an amusement park. The drive there, stressful, the parking, stressful, the lines, stressful, the over pricing of everything, while the income in most households has dropped significantly. Stress has caused some people to lack the ability to cope constructively. The ability to cope has escaped many of us. It is easier for some to explode, become angry, livid even, and end up in a confrontation. We recently saw a pack of motorcyclist chase a car down and pull the driver from the car and beat him nearly to death in front of his wife and CHILD IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Again, televised all over the world...
Many people have lost it all, with only their minds in tact. And if ONE MORE ANYTHING happens that's IT! another front page story, another youtube multi million hit video.VIRAL VIOLENCE! What can we do to get back to logic, clarity in common situations and scenarios? Self medicate? After the stimulants wear off, IF they ever wear off, the problem, the situation, the stress triggers are still there.
I saw it in myself, and I literally had to step back and take control of my own well being and state of mind, and learn how to better deal and cope, pray even. I think a great many of us are right on the edge, and if we don't collectively make an effort within our circles to have a dialogue on this subject, along with the state of mental illness and mental health, we are doomed to become a society that will be consumed with violence. Sadly one day we each may experience acts violence within our own homes, neighborhoods, within our families, our jobs, our children's schools, or TO US.
I hope someone will read this and think "you know, I agree, we have to do something." Look, I get it, many don't believe one person can make a difference and perhaps save a life. It would definitely be unrealistic to think you can save the entire world, but to take the time to just say something to someone you see hurting, and let them know, "hey man... hey friend, you are not alone.We all go through storms, what is important is to not allow a temporary situation cause you to make a permanent decision." Take it a step further, if you see or know someone who you KNOW without a doubt has some disturbing or odd behavior going on, let someone know, somebody, ANYBODY that will listen.
Imagine having to say AFTER THE FACT, "you know, I knew he or she wasn't right," I am certain having to say THAT has to be something that would affect you for the rest of your life. Many see things happen, hear about things happening and think, that doesn't have anything to do with me so let me keep it moving. You could be that 1 person who unknowingly can make the difference, in a life and death situation.
All I know, we have to care and we must continue to believe we won't all become complacent and desensitized to this violence. The day we are not phased nor emotionally affected by the brutal, horrendous acts of violence that continue to plague our society THIS, WILL BE THE DAY THE ENTIRE RACE OF MAN WILL HAVE BECOME...hopeless.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: MAY I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION... I have discovered the...
The Olivia Fox Fix: MAY I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION... I have discovered the...: Before you even think to say it, yes..... it has been some time since I wrote a blog. It doesn't mean the intent to blog was not there....
MAY I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION... I have discovered the secret to SAVING MONEY!
Before you even think to say it, yes..... it has been some time since I wrote a blog. It doesn't mean the intent to blog was not there. It is very similar to each and every Saturday night before I go to bed, I place my clothes out for 10a.m. Sunday church service. On Sunday, I wake up around 10:18am,sometimes later, so you guessed it, no 10 am service. No worries I think to myself, I will go to the 12 noon service, after all I have my clothes laid out.(smile) Aaaannnd...I don't make it.
So I say all this to say...I know its been a while since I last blogged, but as with church on Sundays, the INTENT is always there.
Many are still recovering from the economy being on the mend, and for many things are tight for many of us. That age old question continues to remain unanswered, how do you save money when you are already living on a tight budget? I have figured it out, and for today only, like a one day Macy's sale, (which by the way, doesn't it seem like Macy's is ALWAYS having a sale? They ARE NOT SLICK, you hear me MACY'S you not slick! Those commercials are a manipulation talking about a pre day sale then THE ACTUAL sale.) SHUT UP...YA'LL STAY ON SALE! Where was I? Yes, I have figured out how to save money, and I will give you this gem FOR FREE! You ready? the key to saving money is....drum roll...
STAY YO ASS AT HOME!!!
For those of you who are thinking..."she's such a talented professional lady why does she have to be so vulgar"? And I say, first of all, where are you in the 1900s? When did the word ASS become vulgar? And B. sometimes there just aren't any other words to use that will do justice to telling someone to STAY THEIR ASSES HOME. Listen, if I said, STAY YOUR BUTT AT HOME, or STAY YOUR BEHIND QUARTERS AT HOME. Boooooo! STAY YO ASS AT HOME, IS THE MOST FITTING.
And 3...This here my JUKE JOINT...lmao...You know, I don't really care if you laugh I CRACK ME UP! And often. However , it is worth mentioning it has become more and more evident, that I REALLY need to have my ADD medication adjusted!
So yes, stay at home. My daughter spends time with her father during the summer, and so I am afforded the luxury to finally chill. No practices, girl scouts, sleepovers, camps, games, track meets, cello, bass guitar lessons, just me and my 13 year old dog who by the way has been bumping into furniture because he is going blind. IT KILLS ME. bless his little mole covered dingy fur, that covers his little heart murmur having heart. And his little arthritis and emphysema cough. But OTHER THAN ALL THAT HE IS IN GREAT SHAPE!(side eye)
I have found, I have spent no money. No stops at 7-11, no stopping at grocery store, no burning up a whole lot of gas, no redbox or regular movies, no Rita Ice, no salads or Subway. I think in just this first week I KNOW I have saved at least 125 dollars.
It is the strangest thing, I tend not to eat when my kid is away, it is like some kind of sub conscious fast I go on, but when she is gone I have no appetite, I literally have to MAKE myself eat. So there you go...no groceries, hence NO COOKING. I drink more water because I am not running into 7-11 every other day buying Gatorades, bananas, and peanuts for energy for practices. I feel much healthier because I am back to walking, everyday, sometimes twice a day because it is quiet and not a lot of...mommy can I ride my bike, mommy can I ride my scooter. SHUTUP!!!!!....
So if you want to save money...put your kids in a storage unit somewhere and walk away. I"m kidding, I'm kidding, I'm a kidder. lol
If you want to save money, DON'T HAVE KIDS! That is the secret, because without kids you are not constantly out and spending money. Wow... that was A REAL EINSTEIN MOMENT RIGHT? I think I will make bumper stickers, You want to save money, DONT HAVE KIDS. I like it!
I feel like I have really helped people today, with the most obvious discovery since Brook stones started offering "neck massagers" We ALL KNOW WHAT THEY ARE REALLY FOR! But THATS ANOTHER BLOG, on another day, hopefully sooner than not.
So I say all this to say...I know its been a while since I last blogged, but as with church on Sundays, the INTENT is always there.
Many are still recovering from the economy being on the mend, and for many things are tight for many of us. That age old question continues to remain unanswered, how do you save money when you are already living on a tight budget? I have figured it out, and for today only, like a one day Macy's sale, (which by the way, doesn't it seem like Macy's is ALWAYS having a sale? They ARE NOT SLICK, you hear me MACY'S you not slick! Those commercials are a manipulation talking about a pre day sale then THE ACTUAL sale.) SHUT UP...YA'LL STAY ON SALE! Where was I? Yes, I have figured out how to save money, and I will give you this gem FOR FREE! You ready? the key to saving money is....drum roll...
STAY YO ASS AT HOME!!!
For those of you who are thinking..."she's such a talented professional lady why does she have to be so vulgar"? And I say, first of all, where are you in the 1900s? When did the word ASS become vulgar? And B. sometimes there just aren't any other words to use that will do justice to telling someone to STAY THEIR ASSES HOME. Listen, if I said, STAY YOUR BUTT AT HOME, or STAY YOUR BEHIND QUARTERS AT HOME. Boooooo! STAY YO ASS AT HOME, IS THE MOST FITTING.
And 3...This here my JUKE JOINT...lmao...You know, I don't really care if you laugh I CRACK ME UP! And often. However , it is worth mentioning it has become more and more evident, that I REALLY need to have my ADD medication adjusted!
So yes, stay at home. My daughter spends time with her father during the summer, and so I am afforded the luxury to finally chill. No practices, girl scouts, sleepovers, camps, games, track meets, cello, bass guitar lessons, just me and my 13 year old dog who by the way has been bumping into furniture because he is going blind. IT KILLS ME. bless his little mole covered dingy fur, that covers his little heart murmur having heart. And his little arthritis and emphysema cough. But OTHER THAN ALL THAT HE IS IN GREAT SHAPE!(side eye)
I have found, I have spent no money. No stops at 7-11, no stopping at grocery store, no burning up a whole lot of gas, no redbox or regular movies, no Rita Ice, no salads or Subway. I think in just this first week I KNOW I have saved at least 125 dollars.
It is the strangest thing, I tend not to eat when my kid is away, it is like some kind of sub conscious fast I go on, but when she is gone I have no appetite, I literally have to MAKE myself eat. So there you go...no groceries, hence NO COOKING. I drink more water because I am not running into 7-11 every other day buying Gatorades, bananas, and peanuts for energy for practices. I feel much healthier because I am back to walking, everyday, sometimes twice a day because it is quiet and not a lot of...mommy can I ride my bike, mommy can I ride my scooter. SHUTUP!!!!!....
So if you want to save money...put your kids in a storage unit somewhere and walk away. I"m kidding, I'm kidding, I'm a kidder. lol
If you want to save money, DON'T HAVE KIDS! That is the secret, because without kids you are not constantly out and spending money. Wow... that was A REAL EINSTEIN MOMENT RIGHT? I think I will make bumper stickers, You want to save money, DONT HAVE KIDS. I like it!
I feel like I have really helped people today, with the most obvious discovery since Brook stones started offering "neck massagers" We ALL KNOW WHAT THEY ARE REALLY FOR! But THATS ANOTHER BLOG, on another day, hopefully sooner than not.
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: ON MY NERVES
The Olivia Fox Fix: ON MY NERVES: In the true tradition of all my blogs, I write when the mood strikes. Or when I am in desperate need of professional counseling and opt to ...
ON MY NERVES
In the true tradition of all my blogs, I write when the mood strikes. Or when I am in desperate need of professional counseling and opt to write instead. Both very therapeutic for me and entertaining for others. With the breaking news stories, and very smallest things setting people off, I thought I would submit to you,
SOME THINGS THAT GET ON MY NERVES!
Normally I am a chilled laid back person, away from work, especially having been out the spotlight from the line of work I am in. (no I'm not an old dusty retired stripper, for those of you reading my blog for the first time) I refer to my current state as being in my very own bubble. However there are those times when I must venture out. Try as I might to avoid confrontation, conflict, foolish situations and people, some how, it finds me. So, this is 1of many things on my nerves. I am somewhere minding my own business and here YOU COME! I don't care who you are, everyone knows a person, either at work, family member, client, boss, etc. that BRINGS THE DRAMA. Want to know the sign that you are encountering this person? When you see them coming towards you, you say to your self, Oh.... here HE come, or HERE HER ASS COME,
Another thing on my nerves, when I go to buy a bag of potato chips. They blow the bag up nice and full don't they? You tear into that bag and all the air rushes out the bag and all you have left is a bag that is 1/3 full. REALLY?! Just make the bag smaller, don't try to fool me into thinking I'm getting all these chips On my nerves.
Frequent occurring scenario, in traffic, bumper to bumper, your turn is coming up, you signal to get over, AND the car behind you SPEEDS UP and wont let you over.
They speed up only to be held at the light! WHY? Ummmm... yeah...what was the big rush for you where you could NOT LET ME OVER.
ASS!! (smile) OMN....that's on my nerves for those of you who are like what? what? what does that mean?
It is worth mentioning, I'm not a whiny, complaining person, in fact I feel that now I have vented on these things that get on my nerves, perhaps they will no longer bother me, but...while I still have your ear here is my all time top thing that gets on my nerves! PEOPLE WHO WRITE ABOUT WHAT IS ON THEIR NERVES.
NOBODY CARES!!!hahahahahahaha
Bottom line, most people can't go through their day without getting on some body's nerves somewhere at some time. I do it myself, I will drive my daughter by 4 different Subways, ON PURPOSE, having her think each time oh...I'm gonna get me some Subway..and...NO YOU'RE NOT. Petty right? I know but BOY IT IS FUN!
I could go on and on about what is on my nerves but my hands hurt from typing, and THAT RIGHT THERE?
IS SO, SO,SO ON MY NERVES!
SOME THINGS THAT GET ON MY NERVES!
Normally I am a chilled laid back person, away from work, especially having been out the spotlight from the line of work I am in. (no I'm not an old dusty retired stripper, for those of you reading my blog for the first time) I refer to my current state as being in my very own bubble. However there are those times when I must venture out. Try as I might to avoid confrontation, conflict, foolish situations and people, some how, it finds me. So, this is 1of many things on my nerves. I am somewhere minding my own business and here YOU COME! I don't care who you are, everyone knows a person, either at work, family member, client, boss, etc. that BRINGS THE DRAMA. Want to know the sign that you are encountering this person? When you see them coming towards you, you say to your self, Oh.... here HE come, or HERE HER ASS COME,
Another thing on my nerves, when I go to buy a bag of potato chips. They blow the bag up nice and full don't they? You tear into that bag and all the air rushes out the bag and all you have left is a bag that is 1/3 full. REALLY?! Just make the bag smaller, don't try to fool me into thinking I'm getting all these chips On my nerves.
Frequent occurring scenario, in traffic, bumper to bumper, your turn is coming up, you signal to get over, AND the car behind you SPEEDS UP and wont let you over.
They speed up only to be held at the light! WHY? Ummmm... yeah...what was the big rush for you where you could NOT LET ME OVER.
ASS!! (smile) OMN....that's on my nerves for those of you who are like what? what? what does that mean?
It is worth mentioning, I'm not a whiny, complaining person, in fact I feel that now I have vented on these things that get on my nerves, perhaps they will no longer bother me, but...while I still have your ear here is my all time top thing that gets on my nerves! PEOPLE WHO WRITE ABOUT WHAT IS ON THEIR NERVES.
NOBODY CARES!!!hahahahahahaha
Bottom line, most people can't go through their day without getting on some body's nerves somewhere at some time. I do it myself, I will drive my daughter by 4 different Subways, ON PURPOSE, having her think each time oh...I'm gonna get me some Subway..and...NO YOU'RE NOT. Petty right? I know but BOY IT IS FUN!
I could go on and on about what is on my nerves but my hands hurt from typing, and THAT RIGHT THERE?
IS SO, SO,SO ON MY NERVES!
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Thursday, February 28, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: What a difference a FREAKING YEAR makes
The Olivia Fox Fix: What a difference a FREAKING YEAR makes: Well, well, well... Today I stumbled up on my blog thinking to myself, it has been a minute since I have written, probably 3 or 4 months, so...
What a difference a FREAKING YEAR makes
Well, well, well... Today I stumbled up on my blog thinking to myself, it has been a minute since I have written, probably 3 or 4 months, so much is happening in the world and my own life let me go on here and share a little bit about what is going on with me. Upon my surprise it hadn't been 3 or 4 months, IT HAS ALMOST BEEN A YEAR SINCE I HAVE BLOGGED. I'm all like, how can THAT BE? However, once I sat down and thought about the past year and all that has occurred, the highs the lows. IT HAS BEEN A FREAKING YEAR!
This tells me many things, one...I really need to get my SHIT TOGETHER!! (smile) It tells me I REALLY GOT TO GET SOME SHORT TERM, MID TERM, AND LONG TERM GOALS ON PAPER SOMEWHERE!! But most importantly, it tells me what I have always known throughout my life, time waits for no one, regardless of what you have going on, what you are doing, people and situations coming in and out your life, death, life, job loss, money made, places visited, various transitions.
TIME IS CONSTANT, and it continues to..well.....tick on.
Some of the greatest lessons I have learned in this past year have been the importance of patience, having a proper perspective, and possessing the ability to crisis manage. With each passing day one of these 3 and many times all 3 at one time have helped me to thrive and stay in the game. I could go on and on of all the things I have faced, endured, and tolerated over the past year, but why? Even the good, the past is called that for a reason, it is the past. Things happen, we go through it, sometimes more gracefully than others, but we do, and we move on. I have had many blessings to occur in the past year, and some situations and ultimate outcomes, have transpired that never in 2 lifetimes would I believe could actually occur in my life. But due to all those challenges and triumphs I am able to still be here today. Not bitter, broken discouraged, or defeated while merely existing , going day to day with no joy or expectation of it. I am HERE with joy, a feeling of accomplishment and more important a positive, hopeful, perspective on things to come.
Many people can't go through crisis without being scarred, without having lost a major part of who they are. They may be only a small part of who they were prior to the crisis. They have allowed a temporary situation to negatively impact not only their present day self ,but all the potential they could be in the future. I am a thinker, and sometimes I over think and over analyze situations and people, but some may not necessarily require such thorough examination.
I guess with a passing of time one would learn a lesson or 2. I guess I received more than my share in this past year Have I really shared anything with this blog about my life? The superficial clones, and blinded sheep would say no. However, those who know me, those who have gone through a storm, and those who are in the midst of chaos as you read this,, you KNOW exactly what I have shared, and hopefully someone will see they are not alone in the struggle, and the test cannot and will not .last forever.
I was always told the test in a testimonial is the equivalent of the silver lining of a dark cloud.
I agree.
This tells me many things, one...I really need to get my SHIT TOGETHER!! (smile) It tells me I REALLY GOT TO GET SOME SHORT TERM, MID TERM, AND LONG TERM GOALS ON PAPER SOMEWHERE!! But most importantly, it tells me what I have always known throughout my life, time waits for no one, regardless of what you have going on, what you are doing, people and situations coming in and out your life, death, life, job loss, money made, places visited, various transitions.
TIME IS CONSTANT, and it continues to..well.....tick on.
Some of the greatest lessons I have learned in this past year have been the importance of patience, having a proper perspective, and possessing the ability to crisis manage. With each passing day one of these 3 and many times all 3 at one time have helped me to thrive and stay in the game. I could go on and on of all the things I have faced, endured, and tolerated over the past year, but why? Even the good, the past is called that for a reason, it is the past. Things happen, we go through it, sometimes more gracefully than others, but we do, and we move on. I have had many blessings to occur in the past year, and some situations and ultimate outcomes, have transpired that never in 2 lifetimes would I believe could actually occur in my life. But due to all those challenges and triumphs I am able to still be here today. Not bitter, broken discouraged, or defeated while merely existing , going day to day with no joy or expectation of it. I am HERE with joy, a feeling of accomplishment and more important a positive, hopeful, perspective on things to come.
Many people can't go through crisis without being scarred, without having lost a major part of who they are. They may be only a small part of who they were prior to the crisis. They have allowed a temporary situation to negatively impact not only their present day self ,but all the potential they could be in the future. I am a thinker, and sometimes I over think and over analyze situations and people, but some may not necessarily require such thorough examination.
I guess with a passing of time one would learn a lesson or 2. I guess I received more than my share in this past year Have I really shared anything with this blog about my life? The superficial clones, and blinded sheep would say no. However, those who know me, those who have gone through a storm, and those who are in the midst of chaos as you read this,, you KNOW exactly what I have shared, and hopefully someone will see they are not alone in the struggle, and the test cannot and will not .last forever.
I was always told the test in a testimonial is the equivalent of the silver lining of a dark cloud.
I agree.
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