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- Olivia Fox
- I am a believer in God, a mother, a daughter, a sister and friend. I am purpose driven with intentions of inspiring, provoking thought and dialogue while motivating and changing lives GLOBALLY...
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: No hope for the hopeless
The Olivia Fox Fix: No hope for the hopeless: Setting yourself on fire outside in the middle of rush hour in a thriving city. a neighborhood "watchman" murders a child a few b...
No hope for the hopeless
Setting yourself on fire outside in the middle of rush hour in a thriving city. a neighborhood "watchman" murders a child a few blocks from his home, going on a high speed chase with your 1 year child who sitting in the backseat, and being shot and killed as a result. A multi family mass murder/suicide, and the continuous acts of mass shootings in public places. They all sound like scenes in a motion picture, but tragically all these events have happened and will continue to happen everyday in real life.
These various tragedies have left me feeling so disturbed, troubled, beyond sad, anxious, and worried. I wonder during and after each tragedy what has gone SO WRONG that leaves people to the point of hopelessness?
I mean really, just when you think you have heard the most gruesome, horrendous, senseless act of violence, along comes yet another horror show. How does it come to this?
What has happened within people, in their souls and spirit, that they choose to believe the ONLY clear resolution is to kill oneself and in many instances others? When I think of hopelessness I tend to think of a multi generational epidemic where many have learned our morals, values, adult behavior and logic from the environment we grew up in and/or those around us. For some, if you were raised in a hopeless environment, where everyone around has lost the ability to see beyond their present situation, living day to day, with no idea nor expectation of things turning around,sometimes this can cause you to view things hopeless as well.
I can not remember hearing of such non stop madness. I have to consider the times we are living in, where it may seem like more things are happening simply because when anything happens ANYWHERE before you can formulate an emotion to deal with it, it is everywhere, IN YOUR FACE, instantly, and GRAPHICALLY, thanks to technology.
Why are so many people angry, sad, depressed, defeated, and literally walking shells of a living, thriving, human beings?
Is it the stress we are faced with, trying to do the simplest things? For instance, taking your kids to an amusement park. The drive there, stressful, the parking, stressful, the lines, stressful, the over pricing of everything, while the income in most households has dropped significantly. Stress has caused some people to lack the ability to cope constructively. The ability to cope has escaped many of us. It is easier for some to explode, become angry, livid even, and end up in a confrontation. We recently saw a pack of motorcyclist chase a car down and pull the driver from the car and beat him nearly to death in front of his wife and CHILD IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Again, televised all over the world...
Many people have lost it all, with only their minds in tact. And if ONE MORE ANYTHING happens that's IT! another front page story, another youtube multi million hit video.VIRAL VIOLENCE! What can we do to get back to logic, clarity in common situations and scenarios? Self medicate? After the stimulants wear off, IF they ever wear off, the problem, the situation, the stress triggers are still there.
I saw it in myself, and I literally had to step back and take control of my own well being and state of mind, and learn how to better deal and cope, pray even. I think a great many of us are right on the edge, and if we don't collectively make an effort within our circles to have a dialogue on this subject, along with the state of mental illness and mental health, we are doomed to become a society that will be consumed with violence. Sadly one day we each may experience acts violence within our own homes, neighborhoods, within our families, our jobs, our children's schools, or TO US.
I hope someone will read this and think "you know, I agree, we have to do something." Look, I get it, many don't believe one person can make a difference and perhaps save a life. It would definitely be unrealistic to think you can save the entire world, but to take the time to just say something to someone you see hurting, and let them know, "hey man... hey friend, you are not alone.We all go through storms, what is important is to not allow a temporary situation cause you to make a permanent decision." Take it a step further, if you see or know someone who you KNOW without a doubt has some disturbing or odd behavior going on, let someone know, somebody, ANYBODY that will listen.
Imagine having to say AFTER THE FACT, "you know, I knew he or she wasn't right," I am certain having to say THAT has to be something that would affect you for the rest of your life. Many see things happen, hear about things happening and think, that doesn't have anything to do with me so let me keep it moving. You could be that 1 person who unknowingly can make the difference, in a life and death situation.
All I know, we have to care and we must continue to believe we won't all become complacent and desensitized to this violence. The day we are not phased nor emotionally affected by the brutal, horrendous acts of violence that continue to plague our society THIS, WILL BE THE DAY THE ENTIRE RACE OF MAN WILL HAVE BECOME...hopeless.
These various tragedies have left me feeling so disturbed, troubled, beyond sad, anxious, and worried. I wonder during and after each tragedy what has gone SO WRONG that leaves people to the point of hopelessness?
I mean really, just when you think you have heard the most gruesome, horrendous, senseless act of violence, along comes yet another horror show. How does it come to this?
What has happened within people, in their souls and spirit, that they choose to believe the ONLY clear resolution is to kill oneself and in many instances others? When I think of hopelessness I tend to think of a multi generational epidemic where many have learned our morals, values, adult behavior and logic from the environment we grew up in and/or those around us. For some, if you were raised in a hopeless environment, where everyone around has lost the ability to see beyond their present situation, living day to day, with no idea nor expectation of things turning around,sometimes this can cause you to view things hopeless as well.
I can not remember hearing of such non stop madness. I have to consider the times we are living in, where it may seem like more things are happening simply because when anything happens ANYWHERE before you can formulate an emotion to deal with it, it is everywhere, IN YOUR FACE, instantly, and GRAPHICALLY, thanks to technology.
Why are so many people angry, sad, depressed, defeated, and literally walking shells of a living, thriving, human beings?
Is it the stress we are faced with, trying to do the simplest things? For instance, taking your kids to an amusement park. The drive there, stressful, the parking, stressful, the lines, stressful, the over pricing of everything, while the income in most households has dropped significantly. Stress has caused some people to lack the ability to cope constructively. The ability to cope has escaped many of us. It is easier for some to explode, become angry, livid even, and end up in a confrontation. We recently saw a pack of motorcyclist chase a car down and pull the driver from the car and beat him nearly to death in front of his wife and CHILD IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Again, televised all over the world...
Many people have lost it all, with only their minds in tact. And if ONE MORE ANYTHING happens that's IT! another front page story, another youtube multi million hit video.VIRAL VIOLENCE! What can we do to get back to logic, clarity in common situations and scenarios? Self medicate? After the stimulants wear off, IF they ever wear off, the problem, the situation, the stress triggers are still there.
I saw it in myself, and I literally had to step back and take control of my own well being and state of mind, and learn how to better deal and cope, pray even. I think a great many of us are right on the edge, and if we don't collectively make an effort within our circles to have a dialogue on this subject, along with the state of mental illness and mental health, we are doomed to become a society that will be consumed with violence. Sadly one day we each may experience acts violence within our own homes, neighborhoods, within our families, our jobs, our children's schools, or TO US.
I hope someone will read this and think "you know, I agree, we have to do something." Look, I get it, many don't believe one person can make a difference and perhaps save a life. It would definitely be unrealistic to think you can save the entire world, but to take the time to just say something to someone you see hurting, and let them know, "hey man... hey friend, you are not alone.We all go through storms, what is important is to not allow a temporary situation cause you to make a permanent decision." Take it a step further, if you see or know someone who you KNOW without a doubt has some disturbing or odd behavior going on, let someone know, somebody, ANYBODY that will listen.
Imagine having to say AFTER THE FACT, "you know, I knew he or she wasn't right," I am certain having to say THAT has to be something that would affect you for the rest of your life. Many see things happen, hear about things happening and think, that doesn't have anything to do with me so let me keep it moving. You could be that 1 person who unknowingly can make the difference, in a life and death situation.
All I know, we have to care and we must continue to believe we won't all become complacent and desensitized to this violence. The day we are not phased nor emotionally affected by the brutal, horrendous acts of violence that continue to plague our society THIS, WILL BE THE DAY THE ENTIRE RACE OF MAN WILL HAVE BECOME...hopeless.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: MAY I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION... I have discovered the...
The Olivia Fox Fix: MAY I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION... I have discovered the...: Before you even think to say it, yes..... it has been some time since I wrote a blog. It doesn't mean the intent to blog was not there....
MAY I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION... I have discovered the secret to SAVING MONEY!
Before you even think to say it, yes..... it has been some time since I wrote a blog. It doesn't mean the intent to blog was not there. It is very similar to each and every Saturday night before I go to bed, I place my clothes out for 10a.m. Sunday church service. On Sunday, I wake up around 10:18am,sometimes later, so you guessed it, no 10 am service. No worries I think to myself, I will go to the 12 noon service, after all I have my clothes laid out.(smile) Aaaannnd...I don't make it.
So I say all this to say...I know its been a while since I last blogged, but as with church on Sundays, the INTENT is always there.
Many are still recovering from the economy being on the mend, and for many things are tight for many of us. That age old question continues to remain unanswered, how do you save money when you are already living on a tight budget? I have figured it out, and for today only, like a one day Macy's sale, (which by the way, doesn't it seem like Macy's is ALWAYS having a sale? They ARE NOT SLICK, you hear me MACY'S you not slick! Those commercials are a manipulation talking about a pre day sale then THE ACTUAL sale.) SHUT UP...YA'LL STAY ON SALE! Where was I? Yes, I have figured out how to save money, and I will give you this gem FOR FREE! You ready? the key to saving money is....drum roll...
STAY YO ASS AT HOME!!!
For those of you who are thinking..."she's such a talented professional lady why does she have to be so vulgar"? And I say, first of all, where are you in the 1900s? When did the word ASS become vulgar? And B. sometimes there just aren't any other words to use that will do justice to telling someone to STAY THEIR ASSES HOME. Listen, if I said, STAY YOUR BUTT AT HOME, or STAY YOUR BEHIND QUARTERS AT HOME. Boooooo! STAY YO ASS AT HOME, IS THE MOST FITTING.
And 3...This here my JUKE JOINT...lmao...You know, I don't really care if you laugh I CRACK ME UP! And often. However , it is worth mentioning it has become more and more evident, that I REALLY need to have my ADD medication adjusted!
So yes, stay at home. My daughter spends time with her father during the summer, and so I am afforded the luxury to finally chill. No practices, girl scouts, sleepovers, camps, games, track meets, cello, bass guitar lessons, just me and my 13 year old dog who by the way has been bumping into furniture because he is going blind. IT KILLS ME. bless his little mole covered dingy fur, that covers his little heart murmur having heart. And his little arthritis and emphysema cough. But OTHER THAN ALL THAT HE IS IN GREAT SHAPE!(side eye)
I have found, I have spent no money. No stops at 7-11, no stopping at grocery store, no burning up a whole lot of gas, no redbox or regular movies, no Rita Ice, no salads or Subway. I think in just this first week I KNOW I have saved at least 125 dollars.
It is the strangest thing, I tend not to eat when my kid is away, it is like some kind of sub conscious fast I go on, but when she is gone I have no appetite, I literally have to MAKE myself eat. So there you go...no groceries, hence NO COOKING. I drink more water because I am not running into 7-11 every other day buying Gatorades, bananas, and peanuts for energy for practices. I feel much healthier because I am back to walking, everyday, sometimes twice a day because it is quiet and not a lot of...mommy can I ride my bike, mommy can I ride my scooter. SHUTUP!!!!!....
So if you want to save money...put your kids in a storage unit somewhere and walk away. I"m kidding, I'm kidding, I'm a kidder. lol
If you want to save money, DON'T HAVE KIDS! That is the secret, because without kids you are not constantly out and spending money. Wow... that was A REAL EINSTEIN MOMENT RIGHT? I think I will make bumper stickers, You want to save money, DONT HAVE KIDS. I like it!
I feel like I have really helped people today, with the most obvious discovery since Brook stones started offering "neck massagers" We ALL KNOW WHAT THEY ARE REALLY FOR! But THATS ANOTHER BLOG, on another day, hopefully sooner than not.
So I say all this to say...I know its been a while since I last blogged, but as with church on Sundays, the INTENT is always there.
Many are still recovering from the economy being on the mend, and for many things are tight for many of us. That age old question continues to remain unanswered, how do you save money when you are already living on a tight budget? I have figured it out, and for today only, like a one day Macy's sale, (which by the way, doesn't it seem like Macy's is ALWAYS having a sale? They ARE NOT SLICK, you hear me MACY'S you not slick! Those commercials are a manipulation talking about a pre day sale then THE ACTUAL sale.) SHUT UP...YA'LL STAY ON SALE! Where was I? Yes, I have figured out how to save money, and I will give you this gem FOR FREE! You ready? the key to saving money is....drum roll...
STAY YO ASS AT HOME!!!
For those of you who are thinking..."she's such a talented professional lady why does she have to be so vulgar"? And I say, first of all, where are you in the 1900s? When did the word ASS become vulgar? And B. sometimes there just aren't any other words to use that will do justice to telling someone to STAY THEIR ASSES HOME. Listen, if I said, STAY YOUR BUTT AT HOME, or STAY YOUR BEHIND QUARTERS AT HOME. Boooooo! STAY YO ASS AT HOME, IS THE MOST FITTING.
And 3...This here my JUKE JOINT...lmao...You know, I don't really care if you laugh I CRACK ME UP! And often. However , it is worth mentioning it has become more and more evident, that I REALLY need to have my ADD medication adjusted!
So yes, stay at home. My daughter spends time with her father during the summer, and so I am afforded the luxury to finally chill. No practices, girl scouts, sleepovers, camps, games, track meets, cello, bass guitar lessons, just me and my 13 year old dog who by the way has been bumping into furniture because he is going blind. IT KILLS ME. bless his little mole covered dingy fur, that covers his little heart murmur having heart. And his little arthritis and emphysema cough. But OTHER THAN ALL THAT HE IS IN GREAT SHAPE!(side eye)
I have found, I have spent no money. No stops at 7-11, no stopping at grocery store, no burning up a whole lot of gas, no redbox or regular movies, no Rita Ice, no salads or Subway. I think in just this first week I KNOW I have saved at least 125 dollars.
It is the strangest thing, I tend not to eat when my kid is away, it is like some kind of sub conscious fast I go on, but when she is gone I have no appetite, I literally have to MAKE myself eat. So there you go...no groceries, hence NO COOKING. I drink more water because I am not running into 7-11 every other day buying Gatorades, bananas, and peanuts for energy for practices. I feel much healthier because I am back to walking, everyday, sometimes twice a day because it is quiet and not a lot of...mommy can I ride my bike, mommy can I ride my scooter. SHUTUP!!!!!....
So if you want to save money...put your kids in a storage unit somewhere and walk away. I"m kidding, I'm kidding, I'm a kidder. lol
If you want to save money, DON'T HAVE KIDS! That is the secret, because without kids you are not constantly out and spending money. Wow... that was A REAL EINSTEIN MOMENT RIGHT? I think I will make bumper stickers, You want to save money, DONT HAVE KIDS. I like it!
I feel like I have really helped people today, with the most obvious discovery since Brook stones started offering "neck massagers" We ALL KNOW WHAT THEY ARE REALLY FOR! But THATS ANOTHER BLOG, on another day, hopefully sooner than not.
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: ON MY NERVES
The Olivia Fox Fix: ON MY NERVES: In the true tradition of all my blogs, I write when the mood strikes. Or when I am in desperate need of professional counseling and opt to ...
ON MY NERVES
In the true tradition of all my blogs, I write when the mood strikes. Or when I am in desperate need of professional counseling and opt to write instead. Both very therapeutic for me and entertaining for others. With the breaking news stories, and very smallest things setting people off, I thought I would submit to you,
SOME THINGS THAT GET ON MY NERVES!
Normally I am a chilled laid back person, away from work, especially having been out the spotlight from the line of work I am in. (no I'm not an old dusty retired stripper, for those of you reading my blog for the first time) I refer to my current state as being in my very own bubble. However there are those times when I must venture out. Try as I might to avoid confrontation, conflict, foolish situations and people, some how, it finds me. So, this is 1of many things on my nerves. I am somewhere minding my own business and here YOU COME! I don't care who you are, everyone knows a person, either at work, family member, client, boss, etc. that BRINGS THE DRAMA. Want to know the sign that you are encountering this person? When you see them coming towards you, you say to your self, Oh.... here HE come, or HERE HER ASS COME,
Another thing on my nerves, when I go to buy a bag of potato chips. They blow the bag up nice and full don't they? You tear into that bag and all the air rushes out the bag and all you have left is a bag that is 1/3 full. REALLY?! Just make the bag smaller, don't try to fool me into thinking I'm getting all these chips On my nerves.
Frequent occurring scenario, in traffic, bumper to bumper, your turn is coming up, you signal to get over, AND the car behind you SPEEDS UP and wont let you over.
They speed up only to be held at the light! WHY? Ummmm... yeah...what was the big rush for you where you could NOT LET ME OVER.
ASS!! (smile) OMN....that's on my nerves for those of you who are like what? what? what does that mean?
It is worth mentioning, I'm not a whiny, complaining person, in fact I feel that now I have vented on these things that get on my nerves, perhaps they will no longer bother me, but...while I still have your ear here is my all time top thing that gets on my nerves! PEOPLE WHO WRITE ABOUT WHAT IS ON THEIR NERVES.
NOBODY CARES!!!hahahahahahaha
Bottom line, most people can't go through their day without getting on some body's nerves somewhere at some time. I do it myself, I will drive my daughter by 4 different Subways, ON PURPOSE, having her think each time oh...I'm gonna get me some Subway..and...NO YOU'RE NOT. Petty right? I know but BOY IT IS FUN!
I could go on and on about what is on my nerves but my hands hurt from typing, and THAT RIGHT THERE?
IS SO, SO,SO ON MY NERVES!
SOME THINGS THAT GET ON MY NERVES!
Normally I am a chilled laid back person, away from work, especially having been out the spotlight from the line of work I am in. (no I'm not an old dusty retired stripper, for those of you reading my blog for the first time) I refer to my current state as being in my very own bubble. However there are those times when I must venture out. Try as I might to avoid confrontation, conflict, foolish situations and people, some how, it finds me. So, this is 1of many things on my nerves. I am somewhere minding my own business and here YOU COME! I don't care who you are, everyone knows a person, either at work, family member, client, boss, etc. that BRINGS THE DRAMA. Want to know the sign that you are encountering this person? When you see them coming towards you, you say to your self, Oh.... here HE come, or HERE HER ASS COME,
Another thing on my nerves, when I go to buy a bag of potato chips. They blow the bag up nice and full don't they? You tear into that bag and all the air rushes out the bag and all you have left is a bag that is 1/3 full. REALLY?! Just make the bag smaller, don't try to fool me into thinking I'm getting all these chips On my nerves.
Frequent occurring scenario, in traffic, bumper to bumper, your turn is coming up, you signal to get over, AND the car behind you SPEEDS UP and wont let you over.
They speed up only to be held at the light! WHY? Ummmm... yeah...what was the big rush for you where you could NOT LET ME OVER.
ASS!! (smile) OMN....that's on my nerves for those of you who are like what? what? what does that mean?
It is worth mentioning, I'm not a whiny, complaining person, in fact I feel that now I have vented on these things that get on my nerves, perhaps they will no longer bother me, but...while I still have your ear here is my all time top thing that gets on my nerves! PEOPLE WHO WRITE ABOUT WHAT IS ON THEIR NERVES.
NOBODY CARES!!!hahahahahahaha
Bottom line, most people can't go through their day without getting on some body's nerves somewhere at some time. I do it myself, I will drive my daughter by 4 different Subways, ON PURPOSE, having her think each time oh...I'm gonna get me some Subway..and...NO YOU'RE NOT. Petty right? I know but BOY IT IS FUN!
I could go on and on about what is on my nerves but my hands hurt from typing, and THAT RIGHT THERE?
IS SO, SO,SO ON MY NERVES!
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Thursday, February 28, 2013
The Olivia Fox Fix: What a difference a FREAKING YEAR makes
The Olivia Fox Fix: What a difference a FREAKING YEAR makes: Well, well, well... Today I stumbled up on my blog thinking to myself, it has been a minute since I have written, probably 3 or 4 months, so...
What a difference a FREAKING YEAR makes
Well, well, well... Today I stumbled up on my blog thinking to myself, it has been a minute since I have written, probably 3 or 4 months, so much is happening in the world and my own life let me go on here and share a little bit about what is going on with me. Upon my surprise it hadn't been 3 or 4 months, IT HAS ALMOST BEEN A YEAR SINCE I HAVE BLOGGED. I'm all like, how can THAT BE? However, once I sat down and thought about the past year and all that has occurred, the highs the lows. IT HAS BEEN A FREAKING YEAR!
This tells me many things, one...I really need to get my SHIT TOGETHER!! (smile) It tells me I REALLY GOT TO GET SOME SHORT TERM, MID TERM, AND LONG TERM GOALS ON PAPER SOMEWHERE!! But most importantly, it tells me what I have always known throughout my life, time waits for no one, regardless of what you have going on, what you are doing, people and situations coming in and out your life, death, life, job loss, money made, places visited, various transitions.
TIME IS CONSTANT, and it continues to..well.....tick on.
Some of the greatest lessons I have learned in this past year have been the importance of patience, having a proper perspective, and possessing the ability to crisis manage. With each passing day one of these 3 and many times all 3 at one time have helped me to thrive and stay in the game. I could go on and on of all the things I have faced, endured, and tolerated over the past year, but why? Even the good, the past is called that for a reason, it is the past. Things happen, we go through it, sometimes more gracefully than others, but we do, and we move on. I have had many blessings to occur in the past year, and some situations and ultimate outcomes, have transpired that never in 2 lifetimes would I believe could actually occur in my life. But due to all those challenges and triumphs I am able to still be here today. Not bitter, broken discouraged, or defeated while merely existing , going day to day with no joy or expectation of it. I am HERE with joy, a feeling of accomplishment and more important a positive, hopeful, perspective on things to come.
Many people can't go through crisis without being scarred, without having lost a major part of who they are. They may be only a small part of who they were prior to the crisis. They have allowed a temporary situation to negatively impact not only their present day self ,but all the potential they could be in the future. I am a thinker, and sometimes I over think and over analyze situations and people, but some may not necessarily require such thorough examination.
I guess with a passing of time one would learn a lesson or 2. I guess I received more than my share in this past year Have I really shared anything with this blog about my life? The superficial clones, and blinded sheep would say no. However, those who know me, those who have gone through a storm, and those who are in the midst of chaos as you read this,, you KNOW exactly what I have shared, and hopefully someone will see they are not alone in the struggle, and the test cannot and will not .last forever.
I was always told the test in a testimonial is the equivalent of the silver lining of a dark cloud.
I agree.
This tells me many things, one...I really need to get my SHIT TOGETHER!! (smile) It tells me I REALLY GOT TO GET SOME SHORT TERM, MID TERM, AND LONG TERM GOALS ON PAPER SOMEWHERE!! But most importantly, it tells me what I have always known throughout my life, time waits for no one, regardless of what you have going on, what you are doing, people and situations coming in and out your life, death, life, job loss, money made, places visited, various transitions.
TIME IS CONSTANT, and it continues to..well.....tick on.
Some of the greatest lessons I have learned in this past year have been the importance of patience, having a proper perspective, and possessing the ability to crisis manage. With each passing day one of these 3 and many times all 3 at one time have helped me to thrive and stay in the game. I could go on and on of all the things I have faced, endured, and tolerated over the past year, but why? Even the good, the past is called that for a reason, it is the past. Things happen, we go through it, sometimes more gracefully than others, but we do, and we move on. I have had many blessings to occur in the past year, and some situations and ultimate outcomes, have transpired that never in 2 lifetimes would I believe could actually occur in my life. But due to all those challenges and triumphs I am able to still be here today. Not bitter, broken discouraged, or defeated while merely existing , going day to day with no joy or expectation of it. I am HERE with joy, a feeling of accomplishment and more important a positive, hopeful, perspective on things to come.
Many people can't go through crisis without being scarred, without having lost a major part of who they are. They may be only a small part of who they were prior to the crisis. They have allowed a temporary situation to negatively impact not only their present day self ,but all the potential they could be in the future. I am a thinker, and sometimes I over think and over analyze situations and people, but some may not necessarily require such thorough examination.
I guess with a passing of time one would learn a lesson or 2. I guess I received more than my share in this past year Have I really shared anything with this blog about my life? The superficial clones, and blinded sheep would say no. However, those who know me, those who have gone through a storm, and those who are in the midst of chaos as you read this,, you KNOW exactly what I have shared, and hopefully someone will see they are not alone in the struggle, and the test cannot and will not .last forever.
I was always told the test in a testimonial is the equivalent of the silver lining of a dark cloud.
I agree.
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
WHAT MAKES A HERO
In a few weeks I will embark on a new frontier of sorts, you see for the past 4 years I have been suffering from full renal failure, and I have been on dialysis. Almost everyone I encounter knows someone who knows someone who is on dialysis. Why is it becoming so common? My guess would be the 2 top causes for kidney failure are hypertension and diabetes, therefore with so many of us being over weight, out of shape, having terrible eating habits, a lack of medical insurance and being unable to see a doctor on the regular, along with a lack of exercise, there are tons of folk on dialysis awaiting kidney transplants, and many who are on their way and just don't know it.
For those of who are closest to me, they always ask me, HOW DO YOU DO WHAT YOU DO? Raising an incredibly talented child with tons of energy, while trying to juggle career goals, and day to day obligations, it is tough. Some who know me even consider me a hero or sorts. I don't see myself in that light, I just see myself as a person who has tried to make the best out of a challenging situation. A person who has no other choice BUT TO LIVE and continue to do what I need to do to stay here.
But the more I hear the word "hero" the more it got me to thinking about what a hero means to me. I guess when I think of the heroes in my life, my father comes to mind. He died nearly 4 years ago but there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss him and hear his voice in my head. "Red Top"... (he would always call me)
"hang in there baby girl. HANG IN THERE!" And when I would ask him how he was, even when we all knew he was dying from prostate cancer, in his last days he would say....
"I'M DOING PRETTY GOOD FOR THE SHAPE I AM IN". HERO.... Even in the face of adversity, he never gave up. and he lived his life like that until the end.
My mother, my shero, a woman who didn't get the chance to go to college but she put ALL 4 OF HER CHILDREN THROUGH COLLEGE. One through a masters program, one through law school. And always growing up I never had to wonder where I came from, what stock of blood ran through my veins because I was raised proud, knowing who and what kind of a people I came from. .HERO.... Or my brother and his wife, she a double breast cancer survivor enduring a double mastectomy, then reconstructive surgery only to go through it again 5 years later with a more aggressive cancer 2md time around, enduring chemo, radiation, and yet..... she STOOD on her faith! In fact when I asked her how she did it she says I just put my worries on the mantle and STAND ON MY FAITH!. HERO.... My brother enduring the trauma of dealing with his beloved wife going through hell, while also dealing with a son with special needs in and out of the hospital... and yet... with the spirit of our dad.... HE STANDS AND HOLDS MY DAUGHTER DOWN as she deals with missing her father being in her life consistently. My brother STANDS AND HOLDS MY CHILD DOWN AND ALWAYS MAKES SURE SHE NEVER GOES WITHOUT. HERO!!!!.. God has afforded me the honor to know many people who I consider heroes. In fact one of my heroes will impact my life SIGNIFICANTLY, my dear friend Mike Green whom I have known for over a decade. He goes and gets tested to be my kidney donor and turns out to be a match!!!
He WILL SAVE MY LIFE and end my grueling 3 times a week dialysis treatments. HERO....
A Hero stands when many others would crumble, positive when it would be so much easier to not be, encouraging and optimistic, and able to take on another person's weight and worry while they are going through their own. HERO.....to me THAT'S what makes a hero, and I thank God for all of them to be in my life. As always in closing....
Get life baby.... this ain't no dress rehearsal and remember you can be some body's HERO TODAY,
BECOME AN ORGAN DONOR AND SAVE A LIFE.
For those of who are closest to me, they always ask me, HOW DO YOU DO WHAT YOU DO? Raising an incredibly talented child with tons of energy, while trying to juggle career goals, and day to day obligations, it is tough. Some who know me even consider me a hero or sorts. I don't see myself in that light, I just see myself as a person who has tried to make the best out of a challenging situation. A person who has no other choice BUT TO LIVE and continue to do what I need to do to stay here.
But the more I hear the word "hero" the more it got me to thinking about what a hero means to me. I guess when I think of the heroes in my life, my father comes to mind. He died nearly 4 years ago but there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss him and hear his voice in my head. "Red Top"... (he would always call me)
"hang in there baby girl. HANG IN THERE!" And when I would ask him how he was, even when we all knew he was dying from prostate cancer, in his last days he would say....
"I'M DOING PRETTY GOOD FOR THE SHAPE I AM IN". HERO.... Even in the face of adversity, he never gave up. and he lived his life like that until the end.
My mother, my shero, a woman who didn't get the chance to go to college but she put ALL 4 OF HER CHILDREN THROUGH COLLEGE. One through a masters program, one through law school. And always growing up I never had to wonder where I came from, what stock of blood ran through my veins because I was raised proud, knowing who and what kind of a people I came from. .HERO.... Or my brother and his wife, she a double breast cancer survivor enduring a double mastectomy, then reconstructive surgery only to go through it again 5 years later with a more aggressive cancer 2md time around, enduring chemo, radiation, and yet..... she STOOD on her faith! In fact when I asked her how she did it she says I just put my worries on the mantle and STAND ON MY FAITH!. HERO.... My brother enduring the trauma of dealing with his beloved wife going through hell, while also dealing with a son with special needs in and out of the hospital... and yet... with the spirit of our dad.... HE STANDS AND HOLDS MY DAUGHTER DOWN as she deals with missing her father being in her life consistently. My brother STANDS AND HOLDS MY CHILD DOWN AND ALWAYS MAKES SURE SHE NEVER GOES WITHOUT. HERO!!!!.. God has afforded me the honor to know many people who I consider heroes. In fact one of my heroes will impact my life SIGNIFICANTLY, my dear friend Mike Green whom I have known for over a decade. He goes and gets tested to be my kidney donor and turns out to be a match!!!
He WILL SAVE MY LIFE and end my grueling 3 times a week dialysis treatments. HERO....
A Hero stands when many others would crumble, positive when it would be so much easier to not be, encouraging and optimistic, and able to take on another person's weight and worry while they are going through their own. HERO.....to me THAT'S what makes a hero, and I thank God for all of them to be in my life. As always in closing....
Get life baby.... this ain't no dress rehearsal and remember you can be some body's HERO TODAY,
BECOME AN ORGAN DONOR AND SAVE A LIFE.
Thursday, November 3, 2011
The Olivia Fox Fix: Things My Father Taught Me.
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The Olivia Fox Fix: Things My Father Taught Me.: In our culture it has become fashionable and almost cult like for many women to portray themselves as mere pieces of property. On the marke...
The Olivia Fox Fix: Things My Father Taught Me.: In our culture it has become fashionable and almost cult like for many women to portray themselves as mere pieces of property. On the marke...
Things My Father Taught Me.
In our culture it has become fashionable and almost cult like for many women to portray themselves as mere pieces of property. On the market, for the highest bidder, for many its not about going to school, college, working hard, and having your own and then reaching back to help someone else. No, from what I'm witnessing, the mentality is to get ,get, get, with minimal work, take, take, take, with no remorse, and display your assets to hopefully GET A BALLER, a MILLIONAIRE, A PAYCHECK. Then once you score the big check flaunt it for all the world to see, to gain the admiration of strangers. The need to be loved, admired, and have an empty part within oneself filled with a superficial unrealisticlove.
For many of us who are older and came up in a simpler time, hard work was encouraged, education was emphasized and self worth, and the love of God was all apart of daily life. You may be like me, shaking your head daily at the foolishness that is seen and heard everywhere. I thank my God for my mother and father for the wisdom and common sense they taught me.
Now that I have a child of my own, it all makes so much sense. Many of the ills of society that we are seeing today in my opinion are a direct result of the breakdown of the family and lack of self love. Where do adults get their first dose of self esteem, self worth, self love? From their parents! So if that is not there the result is what we are seeing today. Women half dressed for the attention they never got when they were children from a male role model in the home. Women looking for that "daddy" to take care of them because they never had anyone to take care of them as a child. Many women suffering from a lack of self identity because no one validated them when they were young, so you have clones of zombies dressing, speaking and acting like these so called "ICONS" they see on t.v.
I think often about my own father who left this earth 3 years now, a proud Marine, a World War 2 Vet ,and most important A MAN, who was always there for me. Now that I have a daughter it's so important to pass the wisdom my father taught me on to her. So....here are some things my dad taught me and shared with me as I was coming up. Some of the things are simple, some are humorous, but mostly many are things I think about as an adult and find myself passing on to others.
1.When you meet someone, always look them in their eyes when you speak to them. If you when you speak to someone and they avoid eye contact, walk on away from them, something ain't right.
2.When you walk ,walk upright, shoulders back, gut sucked in, walk with purpose. Alot can be told about the way a person enters a room, confidence is all over the way you walk.
3.If you meet someone and their teeth and nails are not clean, chances are, they aren't.
LEAVE EM ALONE, GO ON......
4.Never fool with a man who don't (and I am quoting my dad and mom on this one) don't have a pot to piss in nor a window to throw it out of. (now that's old school!!) In other words don't mess with a man with bad CREDIT, How you think HE MESSED HIS CREDIT UP? Daddy always said, you lay with dogs?
you will get fleas! And sometimes you can get something you can't get rid of!!!
This one killed me, 5.don't trust a man in pointy toe shoes.(I don't know why he said this but apparently my dad thought men in pointy toe shoes wasn't bout nothing, as he would say.
6. Never forget where you come from, nothing comes before blood (family)
7.Never let a man affect your health nor your wealth.
8 .Make a quarter? save a dime,
9. If you want to know how a man will treat you? Look at how he treats his momma!!
And 10.Stay away from those who wear a $5 Dollar hat on a 10 Cent Head!!! And boy do we see this EVERY SINGLE DAY!!! Folks walking round worried about their outside appearances all flashy and fancy but on the inside they are a HOT ASS MESS!!! And I mean in every sense of those words, emotionally, health wise(dirty) physically, and mentally!!! My dad was so wise, but I guess if you stay on this earth longer than 80 years you would be too.
Dang.....I miss my daddy, he was hilarious, one of the funniest people I have ever known, my friend,
and my hero. His legacy lives on not only through myself and my 3 brothers, but the many he touched his sense of humor, common sense and wisdom. I pass that wisdom on to my own child and to those of you who have taken the time to read this.
As always, get life, this ain't no dress rehearsal, and daddy.....I'll see you at the crossroads,
Love always, your baby girl............................
For many of us who are older and came up in a simpler time, hard work was encouraged, education was emphasized and self worth, and the love of God was all apart of daily life. You may be like me, shaking your head daily at the foolishness that is seen and heard everywhere. I thank my God for my mother and father for the wisdom and common sense they taught me.
Now that I have a child of my own, it all makes so much sense. Many of the ills of society that we are seeing today in my opinion are a direct result of the breakdown of the family and lack of self love. Where do adults get their first dose of self esteem, self worth, self love? From their parents! So if that is not there the result is what we are seeing today. Women half dressed for the attention they never got when they were children from a male role model in the home. Women looking for that "daddy" to take care of them because they never had anyone to take care of them as a child. Many women suffering from a lack of self identity because no one validated them when they were young, so you have clones of zombies dressing, speaking and acting like these so called "ICONS" they see on t.v.
I think often about my own father who left this earth 3 years now, a proud Marine, a World War 2 Vet ,and most important A MAN, who was always there for me. Now that I have a daughter it's so important to pass the wisdom my father taught me on to her. So....here are some things my dad taught me and shared with me as I was coming up. Some of the things are simple, some are humorous, but mostly many are things I think about as an adult and find myself passing on to others.
1.When you meet someone, always look them in their eyes when you speak to them. If you when you speak to someone and they avoid eye contact, walk on away from them, something ain't right.
2.When you walk ,walk upright, shoulders back, gut sucked in, walk with purpose. Alot can be told about the way a person enters a room, confidence is all over the way you walk.
3.If you meet someone and their teeth and nails are not clean, chances are, they aren't.
LEAVE EM ALONE, GO ON......
4.Never fool with a man who don't (and I am quoting my dad and mom on this one) don't have a pot to piss in nor a window to throw it out of. (now that's old school!!) In other words don't mess with a man with bad CREDIT, How you think HE MESSED HIS CREDIT UP? Daddy always said, you lay with dogs?
you will get fleas! And sometimes you can get something you can't get rid of!!!
This one killed me, 5.don't trust a man in pointy toe shoes.(I don't know why he said this but apparently my dad thought men in pointy toe shoes wasn't bout nothing, as he would say.
6. Never forget where you come from, nothing comes before blood (family)
7.Never let a man affect your health nor your wealth.
8 .Make a quarter? save a dime,
9. If you want to know how a man will treat you? Look at how he treats his momma!!
And 10.Stay away from those who wear a $5 Dollar hat on a 10 Cent Head!!! And boy do we see this EVERY SINGLE DAY!!! Folks walking round worried about their outside appearances all flashy and fancy but on the inside they are a HOT ASS MESS!!! And I mean in every sense of those words, emotionally, health wise(dirty) physically, and mentally!!! My dad was so wise, but I guess if you stay on this earth longer than 80 years you would be too.
Dang.....I miss my daddy, he was hilarious, one of the funniest people I have ever known, my friend,
and my hero. His legacy lives on not only through myself and my 3 brothers, but the many he touched his sense of humor, common sense and wisdom. I pass that wisdom on to my own child and to those of you who have taken the time to read this.
As always, get life, this ain't no dress rehearsal, and daddy.....I'll see you at the crossroads,
Love always, your baby girl............................
Friday, October 21, 2011
The Olivia Fox Fix: HOW DO YOU MEND A BROKEN HEART?
The Olivia Fox Fix: HOW DO YOU MEND A BROKEN HEART?: Time passes so fast, and even though it sounds like a cliche, IT REALLY DOES! Look at me, I haven't blogged since September 2011, nearly 2 ...
HOW DO YOU MEND A BROKEN HEART?
Time passes so fast, and even though it sounds like a cliche, IT REALLY DOES! Look at me, I haven't blogged since September 2011, nearly 2 months. I write when the mood strikes me, when I want to vent about a particular subject matter, or when something has happened to me or near me and I feel like sharing, so maybe it can help someone else.
In this particular instance, a little of all three has occurred.
The age old question, how do you mend a broken heart? How does one recover? How does one pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and move forward? Is there life after a heart break? If so,
WHERE IS IT? AND HOW DOES ONE GET TO THAT POINT? Let me put this out there right now...DISCLAIMER, DISCLAIMER....I am no doctor, I have no training in helping those with emotional problems or people who have suffered an emotional upset or trauma. But like so many, especially women, I have been in love, I have lost love, I have been in lust, DEEP HOT CRAZY OUT YO MIND I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS MAN GOT ME OUT HERE LIKE THIS... LUST, (smile) I have had a problem with getting rid of a few past love interest, restraining orders... don't even get me started on that.... And so, by sharing some of the things that worked for me, it can perhaps help someone else.
The first thing one has to do with all problem not just those of the heart is to ACKNOWLEDGE
the heart ache, the heart break, the love lost. Many of us are in denial when we know DAM WELL, its a wrap!!! Many times only one of the persons involved in the relationship knows that the relationship has ended meanwhile, the other is trying to fix it, trying to make it work, holding on like a 11week old weave that should have been put out it's misery 6 weeks ago. Its tough to face the fact that someone you love, either no longer loves you, or can't love you the way you need to be loved.
So in order to move forward you have to be in your right mind and know its A WRAP!!
Next, what do you want for yourself? Do you feel that you are worth a relationship that makes you happy or content more often than miserable and sad? Due to child hood traumas especially little girls, they aren't validated by their fathers, they don't get the attention or admiration from a male role model. So.... they grow up equating sex with love, any attention rather it be negative, degrading, disrespectful or lacking is better than nothing. They have such a low self image of themselves, they subconsciously believe they are not worth a healthy relationship. Maybe they came up in violence or a cheating womanizing father, so unless the man they are with as an adult is cheating, arguing, fighting etc, she may feel like it's not normal. Unfortunately we all come with baggage from childhood, the trick of it is to again acknowledge it, figure out what it has done to you as an adult and make a decision, do I want to continue to live like this? Do I want a different life for myself?
Next don't beat yourself up for wanting that relationship, back sliding.some people can be as addictive as a drug, case in point a guy I once knew, lets call him, "THAT NARCOTIC!".
He truly was a drug, if I knew I was going to see him I'd be excited, like a little crack head awaiting that next rock, if I didn't see him, I'd feel like, I was going into withdrawals like them folks on I the TV show Intervention who can't get their meth. When I see him and with him its like the bliss of a Heroin hit like those folks on Intervention who always end up in a nasty ass, dirty ass, gas station bathroom, on a toilet with dirty ass nails, and a beyond filthy toilet shooting up their next fix, then lying back like they have been hit by a tractor trailer.
Oh and fellas.... here's one for your memory, most women have THAT ONE GUY, who makes them still to this day..... lose their religion, just to think of him. And... there's a good chance? YOU NOT HIM!!!! And for you ladies who haven't experience that guy?.... I hate that for you(smile) I digress....
But treat the retreat as it is a drug rehab stint. The thing about an addiction, you can't leave one addiction and go to another one and expect to have success. So many people will leave one relationship and in order to get over that one, they start something else. You haven't even dealt with the last mess you were involved in. Especially if there are children involved! SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE!... and get full closure of one relationship before bringing someone else in your mess. You are still involved emotionally with someone else and then get sexually involved with someone else, who may end up falling for you and you
aren't even honestly capable of being with them on that level, because you still tripping off the last person you are with.
A HOT ASS MESS! This is how mess gets started. Lets say for spits and giggles, you with a man you or him are married, or involved with someone else, separated, but still married or tied, neither one of you have filed for divorce and or not really legally separated , but here you two are involved with one another, and yo MESSY ASSES ARE STILL INVOLVED WITH YOUR SPOUSES!!! Nowwhat in the ham sandwich are ya'll doing and do you really think that hot mess will work out?!!! This is how people get hurt, babies are made, and as a result folks END UP ON MAURY, folks get stalked and in some instances on the real tip KILLED. Stranger things have happened and one thing you have to keep in the back of your mind at all times... YOU NEVER KNOW A PERSON'S MENTAL STATE, AND WHAT PEOPLE ARE CAPABLE OF WHEN EMOTIONS, PASSION, AND MATTERS OF THE HEART ARE INVOLVED!
So.... anyway ....to make a long story more drawn out, I think the only real remedy for a broken heart is... TIME! Time to acknowledge, reflect, claim responsibility, learn and move on. At least that's how I got over my heart ache, and alot of REDBOX MOVIE RENTALS.(smile)
Remember, GET LIFE, this ain't no dress rehearsal, and also... if you just got out of a relationship, marriage, living with someone and its over....SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE AND ACKNOWLEDGE IT, REFLECT UPON IT, CLAIM YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IN THE DEMISE, LEARN FROM IT .....THEN.....
MOVE ON OR AS JAY Z SAYS....On to the next one!
In this particular instance, a little of all three has occurred.
The age old question, how do you mend a broken heart? How does one recover? How does one pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and move forward? Is there life after a heart break? If so,
WHERE IS IT? AND HOW DOES ONE GET TO THAT POINT? Let me put this out there right now...DISCLAIMER, DISCLAIMER....I am no doctor, I have no training in helping those with emotional problems or people who have suffered an emotional upset or trauma. But like so many, especially women, I have been in love, I have lost love, I have been in lust, DEEP HOT CRAZY OUT YO MIND I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS MAN GOT ME OUT HERE LIKE THIS... LUST, (smile) I have had a problem with getting rid of a few past love interest, restraining orders... don't even get me started on that.... And so, by sharing some of the things that worked for me, it can perhaps help someone else.
The first thing one has to do with all problem not just those of the heart is to ACKNOWLEDGE
the heart ache, the heart break, the love lost. Many of us are in denial when we know DAM WELL, its a wrap!!! Many times only one of the persons involved in the relationship knows that the relationship has ended meanwhile, the other is trying to fix it, trying to make it work, holding on like a 11week old weave that should have been put out it's misery 6 weeks ago. Its tough to face the fact that someone you love, either no longer loves you, or can't love you the way you need to be loved.
So in order to move forward you have to be in your right mind and know its A WRAP!!
Next, what do you want for yourself? Do you feel that you are worth a relationship that makes you happy or content more often than miserable and sad? Due to child hood traumas especially little girls, they aren't validated by their fathers, they don't get the attention or admiration from a male role model. So.... they grow up equating sex with love, any attention rather it be negative, degrading, disrespectful or lacking is better than nothing. They have such a low self image of themselves, they subconsciously believe they are not worth a healthy relationship. Maybe they came up in violence or a cheating womanizing father, so unless the man they are with as an adult is cheating, arguing, fighting etc, she may feel like it's not normal. Unfortunately we all come with baggage from childhood, the trick of it is to again acknowledge it, figure out what it has done to you as an adult and make a decision, do I want to continue to live like this? Do I want a different life for myself?
Next don't beat yourself up for wanting that relationship, back sliding.some people can be as addictive as a drug, case in point a guy I once knew, lets call him, "THAT NARCOTIC!".
He truly was a drug, if I knew I was going to see him I'd be excited, like a little crack head awaiting that next rock, if I didn't see him, I'd feel like, I was going into withdrawals like them folks on I the TV show Intervention who can't get their meth. When I see him and with him its like the bliss of a Heroin hit like those folks on Intervention who always end up in a nasty ass, dirty ass, gas station bathroom, on a toilet with dirty ass nails, and a beyond filthy toilet shooting up their next fix, then lying back like they have been hit by a tractor trailer.
Oh and fellas.... here's one for your memory, most women have THAT ONE GUY, who makes them still to this day..... lose their religion, just to think of him. And... there's a good chance? YOU NOT HIM!!!! And for you ladies who haven't experience that guy?.... I hate that for you(smile) I digress....
But treat the retreat as it is a drug rehab stint. The thing about an addiction, you can't leave one addiction and go to another one and expect to have success. So many people will leave one relationship and in order to get over that one, they start something else. You haven't even dealt with the last mess you were involved in. Especially if there are children involved! SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE!... and get full closure of one relationship before bringing someone else in your mess. You are still involved emotionally with someone else and then get sexually involved with someone else, who may end up falling for you and you
aren't even honestly capable of being with them on that level, because you still tripping off the last person you are with.
A HOT ASS MESS! This is how mess gets started. Lets say for spits and giggles, you with a man you or him are married, or involved with someone else, separated, but still married or tied, neither one of you have filed for divorce and or not really legally separated , but here you two are involved with one another, and yo MESSY ASSES ARE STILL INVOLVED WITH YOUR SPOUSES!!! Nowwhat in the ham sandwich are ya'll doing and do you really think that hot mess will work out?!!! This is how people get hurt, babies are made, and as a result folks END UP ON MAURY, folks get stalked and in some instances on the real tip KILLED. Stranger things have happened and one thing you have to keep in the back of your mind at all times... YOU NEVER KNOW A PERSON'S MENTAL STATE, AND WHAT PEOPLE ARE CAPABLE OF WHEN EMOTIONS, PASSION, AND MATTERS OF THE HEART ARE INVOLVED!
So.... anyway ....to make a long story more drawn out, I think the only real remedy for a broken heart is... TIME! Time to acknowledge, reflect, claim responsibility, learn and move on. At least that's how I got over my heart ache, and alot of REDBOX MOVIE RENTALS.(smile)
Remember, GET LIFE, this ain't no dress rehearsal, and also... if you just got out of a relationship, marriage, living with someone and its over....SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE AND ACKNOWLEDGE IT, REFLECT UPON IT, CLAIM YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IN THE DEMISE, LEARN FROM IT .....THEN.....
MOVE ON OR AS JAY Z SAYS....On to the next one!
Thursday, September 1, 2011
ARE YOU PREPARED FOR THE UNTHINKABLE? GET YO(bleep) TOGETHER!
What a week August 22-28 2011 will go down in the history books for those of us on the East coast of the country. On August 22 in our neighboring state of Virginia an earthquake measuring 5.8 struck. Imagine THAT, an earthquake, then 5 days later a category 1/borderline 2 Hurricane Irene hits the east coast with wind ,rain, and all the damage that comes with such a disaster, I mean REALLY? An earthquake? On the east coast REALLY? It still sounds crazy a week later!! Mother nature has CUT A FOOL and who can blame her, look what we have done to her? I'm surprised more hasn't occurred. And yet here we are another hurricane is forming and now named Katia while fires due to drought spread in parts of the southwest part of the country. I just recently discovered another aftershock hit Virginia just this morning measuring a little over 3. Im like DAG.... you can hardly get yourself together before something else occurs SO what have we learned from one natural disaster to another? Well I don't know about you, but I keeps me some bottled water, candles, batteries, lighters, flashlights, wet wipes, non perishable foods, zip lock bags, trash bags, copies of every important document I have, life insurance policies,passports, car registration, birth certificates, home owners/renters insurance, list of creditors with all the pertinent information, investment documents, drivers license medical insurance information and copies of all medication prescriptions and contact information of all relatives, doctors, friends and clients.
WHEW!!!!... THAT WAS A MOUTHFUL!
The worst time to be looking for the above items is when your belongings are blowing around surrounding areas of where your home USED TO BE. In these uncertain times, where sure... it is important to have faith and belief in the higher good, one MUST be prepared for the unimaginable! So TODAY... this is what I'm going to need for each of you to do. 1. GET A PLAN! What if a natural disaster, or
God forbid another terrorist attack occurs? What is your plan? How will you communicate, where will you or how will you get to your loved ones? Where will you meet? Get a plan people, it's not too far fetched to think any of these possibilities could happen. If you needed to get to your children and you couldn't, who could? Would your child know how to get home?, Do your kids even know all the important information? Name, parent's name, phone numbers ,address? If not, take the time to teach your child that information.
2. GET YOUR SUPPLIES UP! There are some of us who are STILL without power? Here we are 4 days after the hurricane hit the Washington DC area, how are you surviving? What if there was no hotel to go to, no relative or friends to crash with who have electricity, what if we ALL WERE WITHOUT POWER, then what? What would you eat? How would you clean yourselves, water? your pets?
HOW WOULD YOU SURVIVE? I'm not saying you have to build a nucleur bunker, however it would be wreck less to not think it can't happen!!! 10 years ago it happened on 9/11 ,Katrina happened and many people lost EVERYTHING! Some not as lucky so it CAN happen. Get your supplies up, water, food for 4 days for each person. Sounds a bit much, I know, but if something happens, you will be happy you went to Costco, Sam's, or Walmart and got 4 cases of water, fruit cups, applesauce, etc....
3. COPIES COPIES COPIES!!! If your home caught fire, what would you do? Does anyone you love have copies of your important documents? Mine do!! My mother who lives in the Midwest has copies of my birth certificate my daughters, my passport, car information, medical records, life insurance home owners insurance etc.... Even if you place those documents in a safe deposit box just have the documents somewhere else other than where you live.
It truly is amazing that we live in a time where these things have to be even considered but as the old cliche goes IT IS WHAT IT IS, and I would rather be safe than sorry.
In parting, I personally want to send a condolence out to each and every family that lost a loved one from the recent hurricane, and for those who lost their homes and are rebuilding, I truly am sorry for all your heart ache and sorrow. Some of those who lost everything will never be the same however we pray that help and assistance will help to get your lives back on track.
As always GET LIFE BABY, and enjoy your life EVERYDAY, this ain't no dress rehearsal.
And.....GO GET YO WATER, YOUR SUPPLIES AND PLANS IN GEAR, AND GET THOSE COPIES!
TODAY PEOPLE
WHEW!!!!... THAT WAS A MOUTHFUL!
The worst time to be looking for the above items is when your belongings are blowing around surrounding areas of where your home USED TO BE. In these uncertain times, where sure... it is important to have faith and belief in the higher good, one MUST be prepared for the unimaginable! So TODAY... this is what I'm going to need for each of you to do. 1. GET A PLAN! What if a natural disaster, or
God forbid another terrorist attack occurs? What is your plan? How will you communicate, where will you or how will you get to your loved ones? Where will you meet? Get a plan people, it's not too far fetched to think any of these possibilities could happen. If you needed to get to your children and you couldn't, who could? Would your child know how to get home?, Do your kids even know all the important information? Name, parent's name, phone numbers ,address? If not, take the time to teach your child that information.
2. GET YOUR SUPPLIES UP! There are some of us who are STILL without power? Here we are 4 days after the hurricane hit the Washington DC area, how are you surviving? What if there was no hotel to go to, no relative or friends to crash with who have electricity, what if we ALL WERE WITHOUT POWER, then what? What would you eat? How would you clean yourselves, water? your pets?
HOW WOULD YOU SURVIVE? I'm not saying you have to build a nucleur bunker, however it would be wreck less to not think it can't happen!!! 10 years ago it happened on 9/11 ,Katrina happened and many people lost EVERYTHING! Some not as lucky so it CAN happen. Get your supplies up, water, food for 4 days for each person. Sounds a bit much, I know, but if something happens, you will be happy you went to Costco, Sam's, or Walmart and got 4 cases of water, fruit cups, applesauce, etc....
3. COPIES COPIES COPIES!!! If your home caught fire, what would you do? Does anyone you love have copies of your important documents? Mine do!! My mother who lives in the Midwest has copies of my birth certificate my daughters, my passport, car information, medical records, life insurance home owners insurance etc.... Even if you place those documents in a safe deposit box just have the documents somewhere else other than where you live.
It truly is amazing that we live in a time where these things have to be even considered but as the old cliche goes IT IS WHAT IT IS, and I would rather be safe than sorry.
In parting, I personally want to send a condolence out to each and every family that lost a loved one from the recent hurricane, and for those who lost their homes and are rebuilding, I truly am sorry for all your heart ache and sorrow. Some of those who lost everything will never be the same however we pray that help and assistance will help to get your lives back on track.
As always GET LIFE BABY, and enjoy your life EVERYDAY, this ain't no dress rehearsal.
And.....GO GET YO WATER, YOUR SUPPLIES AND PLANS IN GEAR, AND GET THOSE COPIES!
TODAY PEOPLE
Monday, August 15, 2011
The Olivia Fox Fix: BACK TO SCHOOL? Really?.....ok wait a minute why i...
The Olivia Fox Fix: BACK TO SCHOOL? Really?.....ok wait a minute why i...: "Well ladies and gentlemen, it has happened again....TIME HAS FLOWN BY and right around the corner for those of us who care, KIDS ARE GOING B..."
BACK TO SCHOOL? Really?.....ok wait a minute why is time flying? Or is it just me
Well ladies and gentlemen, it has happened again....TIME HAS FLOWN BY and right around the corner for those of us who care, KIDS ARE GOING BACK TO SCHOOL!! NOW.... parents, grand parents, guardians, contain your tears of sadness, because your little ones are going back to school
AND FOR SOME OF YOU,somebody Else's PROBLEM...some of yawl know who YOU ARE
(please don't make me put you AND yo baddass kids ON BLAST, kids bout to be some poor teacher's HUGE PROBLEM!....
Whatever your situation is with your "CHEER RUN, some of us are less than a week away from the 1st day of school and some of you have a few weeks left, but whatever it is, there is still time to knock some things out to prepare for the new school year.
First, get organized people. I have only 1 child but getting ready to go back to school can be a handful and at times,a challenge. Sitting down and looking at what was going to be going on in the next couple of months, kinda crazy! Lacrosse, soccer, track, gymnastics, karate, ballet, girl scouts,or is it brownies? mmodeling. acting, does she want to play an instrument, does she want to try tap dancing again, swimming, diving, the list goes on and on. Then there's aftercare,learning a foreign language, tutoring if needed, will she take lunch to school or will she buy it there, will she walk, or ride the bus? So many decisions, so little time.
Here's the thing, if you remember what it was like when you were a kid, and remember what it was like to NOT have every freaking minute of your day scheduled, you will keep this in mind when deciding WITH YOUR KIDS what it is they want to do. So many parents are a trip, and a hot mess, trying to make their kid into the next Michael Jordan, or Venus or Serena Williams, or Mike Vick, pushing the child every single minute of their free time trying to RELIVE their youth through the child!
I knew someone once who was like that, a former athlete who DIDN'T MAKE IT TO THE PROS, and now his poor children breathe, eat, and sleep athletics. When I asked him yo do you think they get tired of practicing and rippin and running trying to PLEASE YOU, he says, "THEY LIKE IT"!!! Well of course they do because if they can make daddy proud then they get that love. Some people lack common sense and fail to understand basic child psychology.
Not to say there aren't kids out here who DO ENJOY the sport or activity they are involved in ,the key is to find that activity that they naturally drawn to and enjoy. Nothing sadder than seeing poor kids FORCED TO BE SOMETHING THEIR PARENTS COULD NEVER BE OR DO.
Second, with this economy being as it is, TRASHED.... you know it's bad when the very country you live in has BAD CREDIT!!! (smile) I wouldn't even say the country's credit is bad, but times are hard out here nothing surprises me.
Where was I? My rambling ass.... My 2nd point was to simply get a grip on what you working with. In terms of money and extras because most activities your kids want to participate in cost, in some kind of way. Once you know what's out there available to your child, and they actually have an interest in it, and you can afford it, that's most of the work. Seems kinda simple doesn't it? Giving this information kinda reminds me of that ONE person in EVERY family who is always making a big TA Do about something, quiets everyone down and you think..."EWWWW..... he bout to drop some knowledge" Only to be told some ole OBVIOUS INFORMATION. If you are like me, you are quick to say... WE KNEW THAT... HELL.... SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE!!! (smile) as usual I digress.
The moral of this blog is get ready for the upcoming school year, get organized, talk to your kids and find out what interest them, peep your finances, then make your move. I suppose I could have JUST SAID THAT, and this would have been a very short blog. BUT..... you know how I do!!!
As always, get life baby, this ain't no dress rehearsal!!!!
AND FOR SOME OF YOU,somebody Else's PROBLEM...some of yawl know who YOU ARE
(please don't make me put you AND yo baddass kids ON BLAST, kids bout to be some poor teacher's HUGE PROBLEM!....
Whatever your situation is with your "CHEER RUN, some of us are less than a week away from the 1st day of school and some of you have a few weeks left, but whatever it is, there is still time to knock some things out to prepare for the new school year.
First, get organized people. I have only 1 child but getting ready to go back to school can be a handful and at times,a challenge. Sitting down and looking at what was going to be going on in the next couple of months, kinda crazy! Lacrosse, soccer, track, gymnastics, karate, ballet, girl scouts,or is it brownies? mmodeling. acting, does she want to play an instrument, does she want to try tap dancing again, swimming, diving, the list goes on and on. Then there's aftercare,learning a foreign language, tutoring if needed, will she take lunch to school or will she buy it there, will she walk, or ride the bus? So many decisions, so little time.
Here's the thing, if you remember what it was like when you were a kid, and remember what it was like to NOT have every freaking minute of your day scheduled, you will keep this in mind when deciding WITH YOUR KIDS what it is they want to do. So many parents are a trip, and a hot mess, trying to make their kid into the next Michael Jordan, or Venus or Serena Williams, or Mike Vick, pushing the child every single minute of their free time trying to RELIVE their youth through the child!
I knew someone once who was like that, a former athlete who DIDN'T MAKE IT TO THE PROS, and now his poor children breathe, eat, and sleep athletics. When I asked him yo do you think they get tired of practicing and rippin and running trying to PLEASE YOU, he says, "THEY LIKE IT"!!! Well of course they do because if they can make daddy proud then they get that love. Some people lack common sense and fail to understand basic child psychology.
Not to say there aren't kids out here who DO ENJOY the sport or activity they are involved in ,the key is to find that activity that they naturally drawn to and enjoy. Nothing sadder than seeing poor kids FORCED TO BE SOMETHING THEIR PARENTS COULD NEVER BE OR DO.
Second, with this economy being as it is, TRASHED.... you know it's bad when the very country you live in has BAD CREDIT!!! (smile) I wouldn't even say the country's credit is bad, but times are hard out here nothing surprises me.
Where was I? My rambling ass.... My 2nd point was to simply get a grip on what you working with. In terms of money and extras because most activities your kids want to participate in cost, in some kind of way. Once you know what's out there available to your child, and they actually have an interest in it, and you can afford it, that's most of the work. Seems kinda simple doesn't it? Giving this information kinda reminds me of that ONE person in EVERY family who is always making a big TA Do about something, quiets everyone down and you think..."EWWWW..... he bout to drop some knowledge" Only to be told some ole OBVIOUS INFORMATION. If you are like me, you are quick to say... WE KNEW THAT... HELL.... SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE!!! (smile) as usual I digress.
The moral of this blog is get ready for the upcoming school year, get organized, talk to your kids and find out what interest them, peep your finances, then make your move. I suppose I could have JUST SAID THAT, and this would have been a very short blog. BUT..... you know how I do!!!
As always, get life baby, this ain't no dress rehearsal!!!!
Monday, July 18, 2011
Just keep on living......
My mother, whom I love dearly, her favorite sayings is, "just keep on living" and when she would say it I would imagine, and this is going to sound harsh, but I imagined every time she would say it, IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING THE ING SOUND OF LIVING, I would smash her in the face with a whip cream pie!!! It would annoy me SO BAD, and I guess rightfully so, because as a YOUT
(one of my favorite lines from the movie My Cousin Vinny) it didn't make sense to me. I'm thinking, why do you keep saying that? It really states the obvious momma,
just keep on living? Mommy... you not saying NOTHING...! If one doesn't keep on living? YOU DEAD!! so why in the ham sandwich are you even saying it?
But now that I have a little age on me, and a kid who is 7 going on 37, super intelligent, inquisitive, and always challenging any and everything she is not 100 percent clear on ( my momma says I was the same way, and children are just God's way of getting back at baddass kids who grow up to have children who are the EXACT WAY they were when they were children) I digress.....A.D.D......
Anyway.... dag.... where was I? oh yeah.... so anyway.... now that I am older I finally GET IT!!! You truly have to live, experience, acknowledge, adjust to, deal with, and get over it!!!! As a young person any minor setback, disappointment would destroy me. Crushing.... But as you age ,hopefully.... and
KEEP ON LIVING.... you develop better coping skills. Skills that equip you to handle life's little challenges.
Now..... along with that age and these new coping skills, hopefully you are a person who has learned from the past and make the appropriate adjustments to not have to keep experiencing the same trauma over and over.
I'm going to assume you are a sane person, because insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome So..... if you are sane, you have mastered the ability to discontinue toxic behavior that lands you in the same situation. Be it matters of the heart, your professional life, your personal relationships with friends and or family regardless, you have been able to handle things.
For myself in the past 3 years, my faith in God and understanding and believing God has and always will have a purpose for all that has happened and ultimately ALWAYS HAS my back, my faith has lessened the blows of life's challenges and disappointments. I have found with my faith, it has given me an edge in dealing with stress.
Recently I was having some real personal setbacks, I mean if I had the time and energy to go into the chaos that has surrounded my life, someone would be trying to plan an Olivia Fox Aid Benefit Concert to raise funds for psychological assistance. I can see the t.v. commercials now....
"Wont you give... to this cause".... Olivia Fox.... a seasoned professional caught in the middle of New York Ave in Washington DC. in a tank top with half her GUT and muffin top hanging out, cause her dam shirt is TOO YOUNG and a grass hula skirt talking to herself OUT OF HER MIND, due to too much drama, setbacks, loss, and bad news where she literally is sitting on a cooler with a hair brush in her hand holding a full tilt radio style interview with a stuffed teddy bear sitting in a dirty baby high chair....
I'm hollering cause I SEE IT!.... But we don't have enough time to go into my life and the chaos that it has seen....
But I will tell you, if it wasn't for my faith, and my ability to cope, that imaginary vision would be a reality.
So I say all this to say......The thing I have learned most from mamma's saying "to keep on living", is ..
you age and for most of us, we learn. We learn..... IT IS WHAT IT IS, regardless how traumatic, sad, disappointing, crushing, devastating, IT IS.... WHAT THE HELL YOU THOUGHT IT WAS!...... IT IS.
Redundancy in its finest form. But once you truly acknowledge WHAT IT IS, then..... you HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT. Then take responsibility if needed of your role in what that situation is. What did you do or not do? And why did you do what you did? Did you get the lesson?
Next, place the situation in a realistic light. Meaning, so many times it may not be the problem that crushes us, but THE WAY YOU PERCEIVE IT AND REACT TO IT. Perhaps the problem's shadow, which in the mind's eye, is how you perceive the situation, is bigger than what the initial situation is.
Am I making sense? Basically............................
SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE AND GET A GRIP!!!! Breathe..... I am the queen of receiving bad news and each time I amaze myself. Because just when I thought.... ewww girl... if someone told me that? Or did that to me?.... I don't know if I could go on. Well guess what? YOU GO ON, and not only do you go on, YOU CAN THRIVE FROM IT, because God has provided you with a testimonial that could quite possibly help another person.
I have been told more than once by perfect strangers, which is strange in itself, but I have been told, my life, my experiences, good and bad, will serve as a testimonial for millions. I have been told as recent as this past Saturday that God has a magnificant plan for my life that will literally blow my mind because of the places and things I will be able to do with my story of faith, perseverance, patience and clarity. And each time I never worry or wonder how this will all come about. I receive it, acknowledge and thank these strangers for their words. But it turns out ,they always hit me with the good...."GOD told me to deliver this message to you!"
People are a trip to me and at least once a day someone says or does something that has me shaking my head and saying;....PEOPLE ARE A TRIP!.... But as I said ,I receive it and today when I opened my laptop, THIS MESSAGE came to me for someone who needed to receive. So.....in closing, I Love you momma and I have learned to love this saying. In fact I caught myself telling my daughter the same thing last week, and after I said it I was looking for a whip cream pie!!!! Hahahahaha....
As always GET LIFE.... this ain't no dress rehearsal.
*By the way... follow me on twitter@oliviafoxradio.... dam shame...... can't go through one blog without
self promoting... Hey.... Just keep on living.......(wink)
(one of my favorite lines from the movie My Cousin Vinny) it didn't make sense to me. I'm thinking, why do you keep saying that? It really states the obvious momma,
just keep on living? Mommy... you not saying NOTHING...! If one doesn't keep on living? YOU DEAD!! so why in the ham sandwich are you even saying it?
But now that I have a little age on me, and a kid who is 7 going on 37, super intelligent, inquisitive, and always challenging any and everything she is not 100 percent clear on ( my momma says I was the same way, and children are just God's way of getting back at baddass kids who grow up to have children who are the EXACT WAY they were when they were children) I digress.....A.D.D......
Anyway.... dag.... where was I? oh yeah.... so anyway.... now that I am older I finally GET IT!!! You truly have to live, experience, acknowledge, adjust to, deal with, and get over it!!!! As a young person any minor setback, disappointment would destroy me. Crushing.... But as you age ,hopefully.... and
KEEP ON LIVING.... you develop better coping skills. Skills that equip you to handle life's little challenges.
Now..... along with that age and these new coping skills, hopefully you are a person who has learned from the past and make the appropriate adjustments to not have to keep experiencing the same trauma over and over.
I'm going to assume you are a sane person, because insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome So..... if you are sane, you have mastered the ability to discontinue toxic behavior that lands you in the same situation. Be it matters of the heart, your professional life, your personal relationships with friends and or family regardless, you have been able to handle things.
For myself in the past 3 years, my faith in God and understanding and believing God has and always will have a purpose for all that has happened and ultimately ALWAYS HAS my back, my faith has lessened the blows of life's challenges and disappointments. I have found with my faith, it has given me an edge in dealing with stress.
Recently I was having some real personal setbacks, I mean if I had the time and energy to go into the chaos that has surrounded my life, someone would be trying to plan an Olivia Fox Aid Benefit Concert to raise funds for psychological assistance. I can see the t.v. commercials now....
"Wont you give... to this cause".... Olivia Fox.... a seasoned professional caught in the middle of New York Ave in Washington DC. in a tank top with half her GUT and muffin top hanging out, cause her dam shirt is TOO YOUNG and a grass hula skirt talking to herself OUT OF HER MIND, due to too much drama, setbacks, loss, and bad news where she literally is sitting on a cooler with a hair brush in her hand holding a full tilt radio style interview with a stuffed teddy bear sitting in a dirty baby high chair....
I'm hollering cause I SEE IT!.... But we don't have enough time to go into my life and the chaos that it has seen....
But I will tell you, if it wasn't for my faith, and my ability to cope, that imaginary vision would be a reality.
So I say all this to say......The thing I have learned most from mamma's saying "to keep on living", is ..
you age and for most of us, we learn. We learn..... IT IS WHAT IT IS, regardless how traumatic, sad, disappointing, crushing, devastating, IT IS.... WHAT THE HELL YOU THOUGHT IT WAS!...... IT IS.
Redundancy in its finest form. But once you truly acknowledge WHAT IT IS, then..... you HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT. Then take responsibility if needed of your role in what that situation is. What did you do or not do? And why did you do what you did? Did you get the lesson?
Next, place the situation in a realistic light. Meaning, so many times it may not be the problem that crushes us, but THE WAY YOU PERCEIVE IT AND REACT TO IT. Perhaps the problem's shadow, which in the mind's eye, is how you perceive the situation, is bigger than what the initial situation is.
Am I making sense? Basically............................
SIT YO ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE AND GET A GRIP!!!! Breathe..... I am the queen of receiving bad news and each time I amaze myself. Because just when I thought.... ewww girl... if someone told me that? Or did that to me?.... I don't know if I could go on. Well guess what? YOU GO ON, and not only do you go on, YOU CAN THRIVE FROM IT, because God has provided you with a testimonial that could quite possibly help another person.
I have been told more than once by perfect strangers, which is strange in itself, but I have been told, my life, my experiences, good and bad, will serve as a testimonial for millions. I have been told as recent as this past Saturday that God has a magnificant plan for my life that will literally blow my mind because of the places and things I will be able to do with my story of faith, perseverance, patience and clarity. And each time I never worry or wonder how this will all come about. I receive it, acknowledge and thank these strangers for their words. But it turns out ,they always hit me with the good...."GOD told me to deliver this message to you!"
People are a trip to me and at least once a day someone says or does something that has me shaking my head and saying;....PEOPLE ARE A TRIP!.... But as I said ,I receive it and today when I opened my laptop, THIS MESSAGE came to me for someone who needed to receive. So.....in closing, I Love you momma and I have learned to love this saying. In fact I caught myself telling my daughter the same thing last week, and after I said it I was looking for a whip cream pie!!!! Hahahahaha....
As always GET LIFE.... this ain't no dress rehearsal.
*By the way... follow me on twitter@oliviafoxradio.... dam shame...... can't go through one blog without
self promoting... Hey.... Just keep on living.......(wink)
Monday, June 6, 2011
Family Reunions..... ITS ON!!!!
Summertime is officially in full effect and with this time of the year comes kids being out of school, amusement park visits, June weddings, pool days, and a staple for most African Americans,
THE GOOD FAMILY REUNION. Now I may be wrong, because Lord knows I have been wrong so
many times before, not only wrong, but LOUD AND WRONG! But do other races have family reunions or is it a "black thang"? I have several non African American friends and rarely have I heard them speaking about the annual family reunion ritual. I think family reunions and black folks go together like black folks and the electric slide at a wedding, like black folks and spades and dominoe games, like black folks and hennesy, like black folks and Popeyes chicken, like black folks and pit bulls. Have I used all the stereotypes? But really, everyone I know who is an African American has had, is having or planning the good family reunion, it's apart of us. And isn't it wonderful and fun, everyone who is related to you in some kind of capacity come together for a weekend of fun, picnics, spade games, drinking, eating ,and getting caught up with everyone in the fam.
I just recently attended my family reunion in St. Louis, Missouri my hometown and boy was it fun. Seeing your kin folk, getting reconnected, seeing who is balling, who is not, who has gained weight, lost weight, who is in jail, or ON THAT STUFF, lost hair, had babies, graduated, dropped out, and my favorite seeing how the children in the fam have grown and matured. I love my family, we are fun loving, full of humor who enjoys life. The only part of the reunion that brings sadness is to see who has gone on to the upper room, who has died, (for those who dont know what the upper room is about). But even with that, you can always see how that person has affected those who are still here, and their spirits are felt during the gathering.
So with the family reunion season in full effect I thought I would set some ground rules for those of you who will plan, pack and travel to your family gathering for this years family reunions. If you are traveling out of town, state etc... touch bases with your other relatives that live in your area who are traveling as well. Times are tough, folks are out of work gas is high, make a plan. It may be financially beneficial to travel together, car pool, pull your resources together to get there for less. Know where you are going and make sure if there is fee involved for the activities that they are paid. Don't be that one trifling relative that not only shows up and you haven't paid a quarter towards the fees for the reunion, but you dragging 4 and 5 OTHER FOLK to the reunion and nayer one of ya'll have any money to contribute. Come on man this is your blood, dont do that. Also if you are in charge of buying the t shirts to be handed out to the family at the picnic, CAN YA'LL MAKE SURE THE DAM SHIRTS HAVE THE CORRECT SPELLING ON IT. There is nothing worse than seeing 100s of relatives walking around with tshirts with typos all on the dam shirts.
This one is real important, before congratulating a relative on being pregnant....MAKE SURE THEY ARE PREGNANT. Sometimes we are so quick to run out mouths and say the wrong thing, and trust me there is no way to recover from congratulating a relative on being pregnant and they aren't, they are just swole overweight, and belly is looking like she is about 8 months pregnant.. So how bout this, just dont congratulate anyone on a pregnancy unless you over hear someone else saying so and so is pregnant. Keep an open eye on that member of the family that is known to dabble in an occasional crack binge, you know that cousin always talking bout, "let me hold 10 dollars". My father always taught me WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS..... CRY BROKE!!! Meaning just tell folks you are broke without cash, that way you never have to worry bout folks asking you for money. And finally this is for all the MEN FOLK, and I mean this.....keep in mind, if you are at your family reunion and you trying to holla at a female, there is a good chance...THATS YO DAM COUSIN!!! And stop going around asking folk does it count if you sleep with your 3rd cousin? THAT IS YOUR KIN.... with yo nasty ass!!!! Dang!!!
I hope you all enjoy your summer, to be honest I have no idea where this past school year went. I remember when it started, I remember the Christmas holidays well, but after that? A COMPLETE BLUR. But... we here now, so enjoy it. Remember to get life, this aint no dress rehearsal, get connected with your family
and enjoy!!
THE GOOD FAMILY REUNION. Now I may be wrong, because Lord knows I have been wrong so
many times before, not only wrong, but LOUD AND WRONG! But do other races have family reunions or is it a "black thang"? I have several non African American friends and rarely have I heard them speaking about the annual family reunion ritual. I think family reunions and black folks go together like black folks and the electric slide at a wedding, like black folks and spades and dominoe games, like black folks and hennesy, like black folks and Popeyes chicken, like black folks and pit bulls. Have I used all the stereotypes? But really, everyone I know who is an African American has had, is having or planning the good family reunion, it's apart of us. And isn't it wonderful and fun, everyone who is related to you in some kind of capacity come together for a weekend of fun, picnics, spade games, drinking, eating ,and getting caught up with everyone in the fam.
I just recently attended my family reunion in St. Louis, Missouri my hometown and boy was it fun. Seeing your kin folk, getting reconnected, seeing who is balling, who is not, who has gained weight, lost weight, who is in jail, or ON THAT STUFF, lost hair, had babies, graduated, dropped out, and my favorite seeing how the children in the fam have grown and matured. I love my family, we are fun loving, full of humor who enjoys life. The only part of the reunion that brings sadness is to see who has gone on to the upper room, who has died, (for those who dont know what the upper room is about). But even with that, you can always see how that person has affected those who are still here, and their spirits are felt during the gathering.
So with the family reunion season in full effect I thought I would set some ground rules for those of you who will plan, pack and travel to your family gathering for this years family reunions. If you are traveling out of town, state etc... touch bases with your other relatives that live in your area who are traveling as well. Times are tough, folks are out of work gas is high, make a plan. It may be financially beneficial to travel together, car pool, pull your resources together to get there for less. Know where you are going and make sure if there is fee involved for the activities that they are paid. Don't be that one trifling relative that not only shows up and you haven't paid a quarter towards the fees for the reunion, but you dragging 4 and 5 OTHER FOLK to the reunion and nayer one of ya'll have any money to contribute. Come on man this is your blood, dont do that. Also if you are in charge of buying the t shirts to be handed out to the family at the picnic, CAN YA'LL MAKE SURE THE DAM SHIRTS HAVE THE CORRECT SPELLING ON IT. There is nothing worse than seeing 100s of relatives walking around with tshirts with typos all on the dam shirts.
This one is real important, before congratulating a relative on being pregnant....MAKE SURE THEY ARE PREGNANT. Sometimes we are so quick to run out mouths and say the wrong thing, and trust me there is no way to recover from congratulating a relative on being pregnant and they aren't, they are just swole overweight, and belly is looking like she is about 8 months pregnant.. So how bout this, just dont congratulate anyone on a pregnancy unless you over hear someone else saying so and so is pregnant. Keep an open eye on that member of the family that is known to dabble in an occasional crack binge, you know that cousin always talking bout, "let me hold 10 dollars". My father always taught me WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS..... CRY BROKE!!! Meaning just tell folks you are broke without cash, that way you never have to worry bout folks asking you for money. And finally this is for all the MEN FOLK, and I mean this.....keep in mind, if you are at your family reunion and you trying to holla at a female, there is a good chance...THATS YO DAM COUSIN!!! And stop going around asking folk does it count if you sleep with your 3rd cousin? THAT IS YOUR KIN.... with yo nasty ass!!!! Dang!!!
I hope you all enjoy your summer, to be honest I have no idea where this past school year went. I remember when it started, I remember the Christmas holidays well, but after that? A COMPLETE BLUR. But... we here now, so enjoy it. Remember to get life, this aint no dress rehearsal, get connected with your family
and enjoy!!
Friday, May 13, 2011
The Olivia Fox Fix: What in the ham sandwich am I going to do with the...
The Olivia Fox Fix: What in the ham sandwich am I going to do with the...: "Parents believe it or notl this school year is quickly drawing to an end. I'm scratching my head like....'where did this entire year go so ..."
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