About Me
- Olivia Fox
- I am a believer in God, a mother, a daughter, a sister and friend. I am purpose driven with intentions of inspiring, provoking thought and dialogue while motivating and changing lives GLOBALLY...
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
The Olivia Fox Fix: ARE YOU TIRED OF SEEIING THE MAKEUP MONSTERS? ME ...
The Olivia Fox Fix: ARE YOU TIRED OF SEEIING THE MAKEUP MONSTERS? ME ...: "As I sit here as I do each and every time the spirit moves me to blog, I try to be silent and still so the thing that is weighing heaviest o..."
ARE YOU TIRED OF SEEIING THE MAKEUP MONSTERS? ME TOO!!!!!
As I sit here as I do each and every time the spirit moves me to blog, I try to be silent and still so the thing that is weighing heaviest on my spirit I can address in this blog. And today...... what is weighing most on my spirit is? Drum roll please?
Women and their makeup choices. Can I just say? I am not a doctor, an expert, or even a beauty consultant at the Mac counter, but I am going to play one of these today because I have to say something in regard to the things I see in my day to day life. First let me say this.... ATTENTION STRAIGHT WOMEN... THERE IS SO MUCH KNOWLEDGE WE CAN LEARN FROM OUR DEEP VOICED size12 PUMP WEARING SISTERS....DRAG QUEENS. Ok? Rupaul has really bought the art form of dragqueendom to mainstream, but honey.... I have known practically all my adult life. A QUEEN CAN BEAT A FACE BETTER THAN ANYONE! For all of you who are lacking in the homo friendly language, I said... A Gay man specifically a drag queen can make up a face better than anyone! So with that being said, let me just run down some things I have seen and tell you what I think.
Foundation... the base coat of the art that is the illusion of makeup. I am talking to all women, white ,black, brown, yellow,red or pink.... PLEASE!, if your neck is one color? MAKE YOUR FACE THAT COLOR OR AT LEAST MAKE AN HONORABLE ATTEMPT!!. Don't get me wrong, it CAN be a challenge, for an example, in the winter I tend to be as pale as the underbelly of a fish, it is difficult to find my perfect shade of foundation. But as any fine drag queen will tell you, BLEND, BABY ,BLEND! It may take a combo effort to get that just right color. And for you girls who don't need foundation cause your skin is SOOOOOO FLAWLESS.... Go to HELL!(SMILE)
But for the rest of us, make an attempt to match, unless of course you are rocking a turtleneck or a high placed scarf. I suppose your neck could look like a corpse (in my case) while your face looks like a
glorious South Beach tan. For my sisters with a little more color, please don't have your neck looking like Loretta Devine and yo face looking like Beyonce... not the REAL Beyonce, but that dam Beyonce in those Loreal print ads where she look like somebody dipped her in Covergirl's fair to light!
EYEBROWS.... do we really need to go there?
Eyebrows are like weaves....AT LEAST MAKE THEM BELIEVABLE!!!! Dang!
Eye shadow, if you look like a raccoon or like you got into a fight and you are on your 3rd day of bruising? WRONG COLOR FOR YOU!The same applies to lip color, cause I don't care what Nikki Minaj say....LIGHT E PINK LIPSTICK? AINT FOR EVERYBODY.
Seriously and while we on the lips....LIP LINER SHOULD MATCH OR AT LEAST BE IN THE SAME FAMILY OF COLOR THAT YOUR LIP COLOR IS IN! How many dam times do I need to see burgundy, brown and sometimes if you can even believe in 2011 folks are still wearing BLACK lip liner and the lips are colored in with a completely different color usually lighter. AND.. Oh my goodness I almost forgot.... LIP GLOSS AND GLASS!!! Really? If yo ass look like you just polished off some chicken, pork chops, greasy ass movie popcorn EXTRA HEART ATTACK (aka butter) All I am needing at this very moment is?... WHO SAID THAT LOOK WAS SEXY? WHO SAID THAT? Oh greasy mouth having ass.THAT is a big fat NEG A TIVE, NO!
And finally....THESE DAM FAKE ASS TARANTULA LIKE, YOU KNOW DAM..... WELL.... THOSE ARE NOT YOUR DAM EYELASHES!!! Ladies!!!!!! LAY TO THE DEES......
I know.... I know..... its glamorous, it's fabulous... they open your eyes up, BUT.... REALLY?!
Long ass eyelashes at the gym? @Old Navy? @the grocery store, as you working the 10 items or less lane? @the post office, @ the OBGYN? COME ON!!!! Yo eyelashes are like a flashback to the Supremes in the 60s while upon further examination yo finger nail polish is chipped, 4 of your acrylic nails are missin, you out the house with no bra on, and your breast look like stomach curtains.... you out with no kind, of any type of LUBRICATION ON YO FEET, YO KNUCKLES? But ....yo eyelashes are fierce!!! Uughhh..... some of yawl need to SIMMUH DOWN NAH with the spider eyes.
Its all about moderation and what looks good on.... YOU!!! EVERYTHING IS NOT FOR EVERYBODY AND EVERYTHING IS NOT FOR EVERYDAY! That's all I'm saying.... And I know, some of yawl hating ass women are saying... because I have CALLED YOU OUT, "FIRST OF ALL..... WHO IN THE HELL IS A DAM OLIVIA FOX"? AND SECOND OF ALL, "Olivia, I know you aint talking, cause I seen yo bumpy ass, freckle face, having ass out and you aint all that"!!! And you know what I say?.....
SO WHAT..... BITCH!!!! (smile) hahahahahahahahaha... that's funny to me, I kill me I swear!
but on the serious tip, I am just one person who Blogger messed around and allowed me to blog, and it was on my spirit, SO....THERE..... I SAID IT!!! NOW....any questions?......
As always.... GET LIFE...THIS AINT NO DRESS REHEARSAL.... but some of yawl NEED TO REHEARSE YO LOOK BEFORE GOING ON OUT IN PUBLIC ! OUT HERE IN THESE STREETS COMMITTING EYE ASSAULTS AND WHAT NOT!!
That's all I'm saying.........................
Women and their makeup choices. Can I just say? I am not a doctor, an expert, or even a beauty consultant at the Mac counter, but I am going to play one of these today because I have to say something in regard to the things I see in my day to day life. First let me say this.... ATTENTION STRAIGHT WOMEN... THERE IS SO MUCH KNOWLEDGE WE CAN LEARN FROM OUR DEEP VOICED size12 PUMP WEARING SISTERS....DRAG QUEENS. Ok? Rupaul has really bought the art form of dragqueendom to mainstream, but honey.... I have known practically all my adult life. A QUEEN CAN BEAT A FACE BETTER THAN ANYONE! For all of you who are lacking in the homo friendly language, I said... A Gay man specifically a drag queen can make up a face better than anyone! So with that being said, let me just run down some things I have seen and tell you what I think.
Foundation... the base coat of the art that is the illusion of makeup. I am talking to all women, white ,black, brown, yellow,red or pink.... PLEASE!, if your neck is one color? MAKE YOUR FACE THAT COLOR OR AT LEAST MAKE AN HONORABLE ATTEMPT!!. Don't get me wrong, it CAN be a challenge, for an example, in the winter I tend to be as pale as the underbelly of a fish, it is difficult to find my perfect shade of foundation. But as any fine drag queen will tell you, BLEND, BABY ,BLEND! It may take a combo effort to get that just right color. And for you girls who don't need foundation cause your skin is SOOOOOO FLAWLESS.... Go to HELL!(SMILE)
But for the rest of us, make an attempt to match, unless of course you are rocking a turtleneck or a high placed scarf. I suppose your neck could look like a corpse (in my case) while your face looks like a
glorious South Beach tan. For my sisters with a little more color, please don't have your neck looking like Loretta Devine and yo face looking like Beyonce... not the REAL Beyonce, but that dam Beyonce in those Loreal print ads where she look like somebody dipped her in Covergirl's fair to light!
EYEBROWS.... do we really need to go there?
Eyebrows are like weaves....AT LEAST MAKE THEM BELIEVABLE!!!! Dang!
Eye shadow, if you look like a raccoon or like you got into a fight and you are on your 3rd day of bruising? WRONG COLOR FOR YOU!The same applies to lip color, cause I don't care what Nikki Minaj say....LIGHT E PINK LIPSTICK? AINT FOR EVERYBODY.
Seriously and while we on the lips....LIP LINER SHOULD MATCH OR AT LEAST BE IN THE SAME FAMILY OF COLOR THAT YOUR LIP COLOR IS IN! How many dam times do I need to see burgundy, brown and sometimes if you can even believe in 2011 folks are still wearing BLACK lip liner and the lips are colored in with a completely different color usually lighter. AND.. Oh my goodness I almost forgot.... LIP GLOSS AND GLASS!!! Really? If yo ass look like you just polished off some chicken, pork chops, greasy ass movie popcorn EXTRA HEART ATTACK (aka butter) All I am needing at this very moment is?... WHO SAID THAT LOOK WAS SEXY? WHO SAID THAT? Oh greasy mouth having ass.THAT is a big fat NEG A TIVE, NO!
And finally....THESE DAM FAKE ASS TARANTULA LIKE, YOU KNOW DAM..... WELL.... THOSE ARE NOT YOUR DAM EYELASHES!!! Ladies!!!!!! LAY TO THE DEES......
I know.... I know..... its glamorous, it's fabulous... they open your eyes up, BUT.... REALLY?!
Long ass eyelashes at the gym? @Old Navy? @the grocery store, as you working the 10 items or less lane? @the post office, @ the OBGYN? COME ON!!!! Yo eyelashes are like a flashback to the Supremes in the 60s while upon further examination yo finger nail polish is chipped, 4 of your acrylic nails are missin, you out the house with no bra on, and your breast look like stomach curtains.... you out with no kind, of any type of LUBRICATION ON YO FEET, YO KNUCKLES? But ....yo eyelashes are fierce!!! Uughhh..... some of yawl need to SIMMUH DOWN NAH with the spider eyes.
Its all about moderation and what looks good on.... YOU!!! EVERYTHING IS NOT FOR EVERYBODY AND EVERYTHING IS NOT FOR EVERYDAY! That's all I'm saying.... And I know, some of yawl hating ass women are saying... because I have CALLED YOU OUT, "FIRST OF ALL..... WHO IN THE HELL IS A DAM OLIVIA FOX"? AND SECOND OF ALL, "Olivia, I know you aint talking, cause I seen yo bumpy ass, freckle face, having ass out and you aint all that"!!! And you know what I say?.....
SO WHAT..... BITCH!!!! (smile) hahahahahahahahaha... that's funny to me, I kill me I swear!
but on the serious tip, I am just one person who Blogger messed around and allowed me to blog, and it was on my spirit, SO....THERE..... I SAID IT!!! NOW....any questions?......
As always.... GET LIFE...THIS AINT NO DRESS REHEARSAL.... but some of yawl NEED TO REHEARSE YO LOOK BEFORE GOING ON OUT IN PUBLIC ! OUT HERE IN THESE STREETS COMMITTING EYE ASSAULTS AND WHAT NOT!!
That's all I'm saying.........................
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
The Olivia Fox Fix: Why WE always got to be a "Ne Ne"?
The Olivia Fox Fix: Why WE always got to be a "Ne Ne"?: "This subject has been on my spirit for a minute and at the advice of a good friend who follows my blogs he says, 'Olivia, yo long winded ass..."
Why WE always got to be a "Ne Ne"?
This subject has been on my spirit for a minute and at the advice of a good friend who follows my blogs he says, "Olivia, yo long winded ass, just make your point and end it already..... there(he said) I said it!(smile)" OK, because I am always up for constructive criticism here it is short and to the point.
WHY DO BLACK WOMEN ON T.V. HAVE TO BE A "NE NE."..... the end.
please post your comment......
PSYCHE...... not the end but I had you for a minute didn't I. But seriously when I say a "Ne Ne" I am speaking about Ne Ne Leaks from the ever popular Housewives of Atlanta, and I'm not being mean spirited because I realize everyone has their own unique journey, and furthermore who am I to judge ignorance, if ignorance is getting you paid! Not necessarily how I intend on leaving my mark but if you like it
DO YOU BOO .....go for it.
As a black women with what I like to term a functioning brain and the ability to articulate a thought, it pisses me off when I look at mainstream media and see the same type of "black woman" portrayed in many television shows. These so called reality shows, which attempt to paint the picture that they are "real" ALWAYS have the angry, loud ,confrontational, materialistic, neck rolling, black woman as the staple. White women on these shows come in so many variations, the quiet timid white woman, the "I'm a lesbian, deal with it" white woman, the bombshell who gets what she wants, the all business Harvard graduate, the motor cycle, leather piercing, hard core white chick, the punk chick, the religious chick, the single mom, BUT.....
not like the single black woman who had her kids out of wedlock and her baby daddy is either locked up, a dead beat, or my personal favorite a professional athlete (and the wife spends all of her useless time spending his money, starting a clothing line that no one buys or fighting with a bunch of other jock's wives who spend all their time worrying about another, gold digger in training, sleeping with their man) Sorry I digress.....
No the single white woman's husband either got killed honorably in the war, or died in a car wreck, or of a dreadful disease. Something honorable, and therefore the woman is deemed honorable, and her kids are honorable as well. The list goes on and on. And I am not saying ALL, but in most instances this is the case. Black women more often than not, on these shows are always so confrontational, angry, bitter, vindictive, back stabbers, man stealers, and on the dollar bill hard. Why is this?
I've been a black woman all my life,(smile) I have 4 or 5 very close friends who are black, the women in my family are all black and NONE OF THEM carry on like these women that I see on these television shows, so why are these majority of the black women's role in the programming on television? No wonder all the black men are going out of their race to find mates(smile) That's sarcasm people, there are some brothers out here who will use that argument. It is so unfortunate, because black women come in so many shades, levels of professionalism and intelligence. We have so many talents, gifts, and we have accomplished so much,
and yet..... we are continuously bombarded by these images.
This is why it is so important as mentors, mothers and caregivers to our children specifically our little girls to be THAT INFLUENCE AND ROLE MODEL for them. Let them know how to handle conflicts without volume, articulate your thoughts and opinions without emotion. Learn to understand and show empathy before judging and waving off another black woman as..."oh that bitch...forget her." It is important to let your daughters know its OK to NEED A MAN. I swear, if I hear one more of these self proclaimed so called INDEPENDENT STRONG BLACK WOMAN say..."I DON'T NEED NO MAN".
PLEASE....Shut YO ASS UP!, everyone needs someone. You are not that strong, its human nature to NEED SOMEONE. And... if you don't need a man, why are you announcing it, NO ONE CARES!!!
Let your daughters know love is a wonderful thing between 2 people who respect, honor and cherish one another. But always be independent and be able to care for yourself in the event your happily ever after is delayed or when it does come, for whatever reason if ,God forbid ,it happens and it doesn't work out? Teach her self independence so she's not found in a fetus position of her walk in closet Devastated. Most importantly, teach your children boys and girls to be independent thinkers. Don't just go with the crowd, this is how so many young children specifically in this instance ,girls get sucked into the images and the culture they are bombarded with. "Well mommy Tyquitha is going to school with her breast and ass hanging out and her momma don't care why can't I"?. And I say to that, "because Tyquithas mommas ass and breast are hanging out, so she is basically imitating what she sees in her momma and......Tyquithas momma is STILL trying to be a video girl in a rappers video, her momma know SHE PAST HER PRIME (PHP)
Children are like little sponges, they absorb what is around them, so if you are allowing t.v. and others to raise your child and mold the self image they hold for themselves, you can't be surprised that that's what she begins to be.
Just my 2 cents..... I hope that was short enough for you, I tend to be long winded, because I am a master at communication, which would explain why my ass is not working in commercial radio anymore, have you noticed you don't hear the DJ s anymore and if you do they speak like they are all on coke, talking fast, because they can only speak for 30 seconds or less. That's what commercial radio has become, which again explains why I'M NOT WORKING. But .....THAT'S A WHOLE NOTHA BLOG FOR ANOTHER DAY(smile)... any who... Remember, this life ain't no dress rehearsal, AND......your children are a direct reflection upon YOU, so get it right or at least try and YOU.... RAISE THEM!
WHY DO BLACK WOMEN ON T.V. HAVE TO BE A "NE NE."..... the end.
please post your comment......
PSYCHE...... not the end but I had you for a minute didn't I. But seriously when I say a "Ne Ne" I am speaking about Ne Ne Leaks from the ever popular Housewives of Atlanta, and I'm not being mean spirited because I realize everyone has their own unique journey, and furthermore who am I to judge ignorance, if ignorance is getting you paid! Not necessarily how I intend on leaving my mark but if you like it
DO YOU BOO .....go for it.
As a black women with what I like to term a functioning brain and the ability to articulate a thought, it pisses me off when I look at mainstream media and see the same type of "black woman" portrayed in many television shows. These so called reality shows, which attempt to paint the picture that they are "real" ALWAYS have the angry, loud ,confrontational, materialistic, neck rolling, black woman as the staple. White women on these shows come in so many variations, the quiet timid white woman, the "I'm a lesbian, deal with it" white woman, the bombshell who gets what she wants, the all business Harvard graduate, the motor cycle, leather piercing, hard core white chick, the punk chick, the religious chick, the single mom, BUT.....
not like the single black woman who had her kids out of wedlock and her baby daddy is either locked up, a dead beat, or my personal favorite a professional athlete (and the wife spends all of her useless time spending his money, starting a clothing line that no one buys or fighting with a bunch of other jock's wives who spend all their time worrying about another, gold digger in training, sleeping with their man) Sorry I digress.....
No the single white woman's husband either got killed honorably in the war, or died in a car wreck, or of a dreadful disease. Something honorable, and therefore the woman is deemed honorable, and her kids are honorable as well. The list goes on and on. And I am not saying ALL, but in most instances this is the case. Black women more often than not, on these shows are always so confrontational, angry, bitter, vindictive, back stabbers, man stealers, and on the dollar bill hard. Why is this?
I've been a black woman all my life,(smile) I have 4 or 5 very close friends who are black, the women in my family are all black and NONE OF THEM carry on like these women that I see on these television shows, so why are these majority of the black women's role in the programming on television? No wonder all the black men are going out of their race to find mates(smile) That's sarcasm people, there are some brothers out here who will use that argument. It is so unfortunate, because black women come in so many shades, levels of professionalism and intelligence. We have so many talents, gifts, and we have accomplished so much,
and yet..... we are continuously bombarded by these images.
This is why it is so important as mentors, mothers and caregivers to our children specifically our little girls to be THAT INFLUENCE AND ROLE MODEL for them. Let them know how to handle conflicts without volume, articulate your thoughts and opinions without emotion. Learn to understand and show empathy before judging and waving off another black woman as..."oh that bitch...forget her." It is important to let your daughters know its OK to NEED A MAN. I swear, if I hear one more of these self proclaimed so called INDEPENDENT STRONG BLACK WOMAN say..."I DON'T NEED NO MAN".
PLEASE....Shut YO ASS UP!, everyone needs someone. You are not that strong, its human nature to NEED SOMEONE. And... if you don't need a man, why are you announcing it, NO ONE CARES!!!
Let your daughters know love is a wonderful thing between 2 people who respect, honor and cherish one another. But always be independent and be able to care for yourself in the event your happily ever after is delayed or when it does come, for whatever reason if ,God forbid ,it happens and it doesn't work out? Teach her self independence so she's not found in a fetus position of her walk in closet Devastated. Most importantly, teach your children boys and girls to be independent thinkers. Don't just go with the crowd, this is how so many young children specifically in this instance ,girls get sucked into the images and the culture they are bombarded with. "Well mommy Tyquitha is going to school with her breast and ass hanging out and her momma don't care why can't I"?. And I say to that, "because Tyquithas mommas ass and breast are hanging out, so she is basically imitating what she sees in her momma and......Tyquithas momma is STILL trying to be a video girl in a rappers video, her momma know SHE PAST HER PRIME (PHP)
Children are like little sponges, they absorb what is around them, so if you are allowing t.v. and others to raise your child and mold the self image they hold for themselves, you can't be surprised that that's what she begins to be.
Just my 2 cents..... I hope that was short enough for you, I tend to be long winded, because I am a master at communication, which would explain why my ass is not working in commercial radio anymore, have you noticed you don't hear the DJ s anymore and if you do they speak like they are all on coke, talking fast, because they can only speak for 30 seconds or less. That's what commercial radio has become, which again explains why I'M NOT WORKING. But .....THAT'S A WHOLE NOTHA BLOG FOR ANOTHER DAY(smile)... any who... Remember, this life ain't no dress rehearsal, AND......your children are a direct reflection upon YOU, so get it right or at least try and YOU.... RAISE THEM!
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
What about your friends?
I was listening to the Ricky Smiley Morning show as I do each and every morning when getting my kid ready and off to school and I heard one of my favorite sister girls on the air, Lisa Raye. Now many of you may remember her from the early 90s movie, Players Club, but I remember her from the various times I have had the pleasure of interviewing her at several events I have covered during my radio career. But anywho.... Today she was talking about her journey and how she has had to let go of people in her life that were so called friends, and how God sends people to your life for various reasons and sometimes for a limited season. And though this saying is used alot, "there's a reason for some and a just a season for others" or something like that, I tend to dislike the usage, and or over used sayings like that and others like.....
"knowwhatimsaying". Have you ever noticed people who say "knowwhatimsaying", chances are
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HAM SANDWICH THEY ARE SAYING? Or.... "
YOU FEEL ME SON"?..... ummmm.... first of all.... I'm a woman.... so.... I'm not yo son, and
HELL TO THE NAW I DO NOT FEEL YOU, I CAN HARDLY UNDERSTAND WHAT THE HELL YOU ARE TRYING TO SAY!. Oh and one of my all time least favorites..".STOP HATIN"....
"YOU HATIN"..... "I KNOW YA'LL HATIN"...."GET OFF THAT HATERADE"
Ok.... let me just say this.... CAN YA'LL STOP SAYING ALL THOSE!!! Who in the hell came up with that that term anyway? Let me say this for the record, just because you have an opinion on someone or have the skill level and fortitude to do better than what someone else is doing and you say that or comment on that, DOESN'T MAKE YOU A HATER.! It makes you a person with an opinion. Sometimes it just makes you a person with a constructive criticism. If I don't like Mozart am I a HATER OF MOZART?. No... I just don't care for it.... so SHUT YO OVER USING A PHRASE ASS UP!!!
Whew...... I am sorry, I COMPLETELY DIGRESS from what I came on here to blog about, but that was on my spirit from a few days ago, I just had to get it off my chest. Now.... let me scroll up and see what I was originally on here to spew about. Oh and one more thing............its SCROLL NOT STROLL
Some of ya'll say "let me stroll through my notes"...LOUD AND WRONG!!! anywho....................
As I was saying before I got carried away... Lisa Raye was talking about friends and it made me post a long shout out on my facebook page (which by the by is @facebook.com/oliviafox (shameless plug) I posted a shout out this morning about the people I consider my best friends and how blessed and fortunate I am to have them in my life. I think there should be certain criteria a person must meet and certain character traits a person must possess to be considered a friend. Newsflash...alot of us are calling people friends and ....they really are not. Some are just folk we know or have known for a long time and it doesn't necessarily make them your friends. Co workers, again we see them everyday, but it doesn't necessarily make them
YOUR FRIENDS. Also for my married and or involved people, just because someone is friends with YOUR MATE, doesn't make them YOUR FRIEND AS WELL. It's important when you are WITH SOMEONE that you maintain your OWN IDENTITY and your OWN FRIENDS. How many times have we seen people completely isolate and become so overly intoxicated by a relationship that they lose the essence of what and who they truly are, be it their identity, their own friends and sometimes, sadly, family, as well. That's an entirely whole NOTHA BLOG.
But here are some ways to tell if the person whom you consider "a friend" is truly "a friend"
.When something good, terrific, or horrific happens in your life, do you consider calling this person first and telling them the great news or the horrific news? And.....when you call them, are they really listening and engaged in what you are saying? Are they generally and genuinely happy for you or is there are feeling that they may be secretly HATIN?.....
There's that dam word..... my bad. But you know when someone is truly happy for you or truly
THERE FOR YOU when you really need a shoulder. AND.... are you that for them? Some people have it twisted they think folk are supposed to be THERE for them but they are not offering the same to that person. Have you ever called someone and the entire conversation is about THEM? They don't take a moment to say..look enough about me and my drama, how are you? How are things with you? And they really mean it and LISTEN?!! That's real peeps right there.
Next..... in an emergency... I mean a REAL emergency, let's say.... while you are at the hairdresser, your stylist is on the phone with the utility company arguing about why her lights have been cut off and she has left the perm ON TOO LONG ON YOUR HEAD and as a result you have 2nd and 3rd degree chemical burns round your edges and yo ass has to go to emergency room?.... AND YOU HAVE TO CAL SOMEONE..... would that person that you consider to be "your friend" be THERE TO GET YOU, see about you, do whatever it is you need to make certain you ok?.Or ......DO THEIR asses say.... "oh boo, my man's daughter has a soccer practice and I promised to pick her up let me call him and I will call you back"?
HO....ARE YOU SERIOUS?...... really?.....I'm in the E. R. and you gotta call this man? whom by the way you have known for AN ENTIRE 4 months and my ass is in the hospital? with a BURNT UP ASS SCALP?.... REALLY.?.... That's not a friend.....And again... it goes both ways, if my friend is in need, I'm there....don't even think about it. I'm there, what you need boo?, who can I call for you?, can I get some SALVE, VASELINE, OR ALOE PLANT TO RUB ON YOUR BURNT UP ASS SCALP,
I got you!!!!! And third..... and I always say, money and friendships never mix, HOWEVER.... times are rough, folk gettin put out their homes, cars repossessed etc.... etc...... and sometimes you can be short,
AS MY DADDY WOULD SAY....30 CENTS SHY OF A QUARTER.... is that "friend" someone who will offer to help without you even asking?. It's the thought sometimes, and I do not recommend money borrowing from friends because Lord knows I have heard horror stories about folks, EVEN BLOOD, and KIN, hell my own family arguing, yelling and ultimately STOP TALKING over 200 dollars. OVER 200 HUNDRED LOUSY ASS DOLLARS?!!!!..... REALLY?..... that again is an entirely NOTHA BLOG.....
Just to offer someone who is in need means alot and again you should have the type of relationship with your friends to let them know you have that for them if they need it.
These are just a few questions you should ask yourself when looking at the relationships you have in your own life. It's always important to check and re check the circle you keep around you. I don't know who it was who said it, but you truly are THE COMPANY YOU KEEP. And..... if you are the type of person who desires to live with purpose, to really BE OF SOMETHING as one of my best friends mom's says..... then
IT IS EVEN MORE critical to take an inventory on your circle of friends. If a person is on a "come up" or is always back in the cut trying to figure out what they can get from a situation, that is not a friend! That my dear is a LEACH, a user, and quite frankly an automatic DELETE FROM ANY AND ALL COMMUNICATIONS!!!! If a person is narcissistic meaning everything AND I MEAN EVERYTHING, no matter what ends up being about them? That is not a friend, that is JUST PLAIN ANNOYING. And if the climate of your life takes a turn for the worse meaning, you either lose your job, lose a relationship, your income or status changes or you suffer a health crisis or worst.... HELL.... WHAT'S IS WORSE than all that I JUST NAMED? THOSE ARE SOME OF THE WORST THINGS TO HAPPEN TO A PERSON... but if things fall apart and the dust settles and that so called friend is no where to be found? Guess what? that's just a blessing, because one thing about people.... if you wait long enough THEY WILL REVEAL THEIR TRUE SELVES. and that revelation could be THAT BLESSING you needed.
Keep your circle like I keep my bra straps..... TIGHT!! Ask yourself....What about my friends? What about them? Are they true blue or...AM I ,A TRUE FRIEND? Are they only around for a season? Its an inventory we all should take from time to time.
Well thats my 2cents, as always.... This thing you living? THIS AIN'T NO DRESS REHEARSAL....
.Get life.....
Love it, enjoy it and treasure your friends!
"knowwhatimsaying". Have you ever noticed people who say "knowwhatimsaying", chances are
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HAM SANDWICH THEY ARE SAYING? Or.... "
YOU FEEL ME SON"?..... ummmm.... first of all.... I'm a woman.... so.... I'm not yo son, and
HELL TO THE NAW I DO NOT FEEL YOU, I CAN HARDLY UNDERSTAND WHAT THE HELL YOU ARE TRYING TO SAY!. Oh and one of my all time least favorites..".STOP HATIN"....
"YOU HATIN"..... "I KNOW YA'LL HATIN"...."GET OFF THAT HATERADE"
Ok.... let me just say this.... CAN YA'LL STOP SAYING ALL THOSE!!! Who in the hell came up with that that term anyway? Let me say this for the record, just because you have an opinion on someone or have the skill level and fortitude to do better than what someone else is doing and you say that or comment on that, DOESN'T MAKE YOU A HATER.! It makes you a person with an opinion. Sometimes it just makes you a person with a constructive criticism. If I don't like Mozart am I a HATER OF MOZART?. No... I just don't care for it.... so SHUT YO OVER USING A PHRASE ASS UP!!!
Whew...... I am sorry, I COMPLETELY DIGRESS from what I came on here to blog about, but that was on my spirit from a few days ago, I just had to get it off my chest. Now.... let me scroll up and see what I was originally on here to spew about. Oh and one more thing............its SCROLL NOT STROLL
Some of ya'll say "let me stroll through my notes"...LOUD AND WRONG!!! anywho....................
As I was saying before I got carried away... Lisa Raye was talking about friends and it made me post a long shout out on my facebook page (which by the by is @facebook.com/oliviafox (shameless plug) I posted a shout out this morning about the people I consider my best friends and how blessed and fortunate I am to have them in my life. I think there should be certain criteria a person must meet and certain character traits a person must possess to be considered a friend. Newsflash...alot of us are calling people friends and ....they really are not. Some are just folk we know or have known for a long time and it doesn't necessarily make them your friends. Co workers, again we see them everyday, but it doesn't necessarily make them
YOUR FRIENDS. Also for my married and or involved people, just because someone is friends with YOUR MATE, doesn't make them YOUR FRIEND AS WELL. It's important when you are WITH SOMEONE that you maintain your OWN IDENTITY and your OWN FRIENDS. How many times have we seen people completely isolate and become so overly intoxicated by a relationship that they lose the essence of what and who they truly are, be it their identity, their own friends and sometimes, sadly, family, as well. That's an entirely whole NOTHA BLOG.
But here are some ways to tell if the person whom you consider "a friend" is truly "a friend"
.When something good, terrific, or horrific happens in your life, do you consider calling this person first and telling them the great news or the horrific news? And.....when you call them, are they really listening and engaged in what you are saying? Are they generally and genuinely happy for you or is there are feeling that they may be secretly HATIN?.....
There's that dam word..... my bad. But you know when someone is truly happy for you or truly
THERE FOR YOU when you really need a shoulder. AND.... are you that for them? Some people have it twisted they think folk are supposed to be THERE for them but they are not offering the same to that person. Have you ever called someone and the entire conversation is about THEM? They don't take a moment to say..look enough about me and my drama, how are you? How are things with you? And they really mean it and LISTEN?!! That's real peeps right there.
Next..... in an emergency... I mean a REAL emergency, let's say.... while you are at the hairdresser, your stylist is on the phone with the utility company arguing about why her lights have been cut off and she has left the perm ON TOO LONG ON YOUR HEAD and as a result you have 2nd and 3rd degree chemical burns round your edges and yo ass has to go to emergency room?.... AND YOU HAVE TO CAL SOMEONE..... would that person that you consider to be "your friend" be THERE TO GET YOU, see about you, do whatever it is you need to make certain you ok?.Or ......DO THEIR asses say.... "oh boo, my man's daughter has a soccer practice and I promised to pick her up let me call him and I will call you back"?
HO....ARE YOU SERIOUS?...... really?.....I'm in the E. R. and you gotta call this man? whom by the way you have known for AN ENTIRE 4 months and my ass is in the hospital? with a BURNT UP ASS SCALP?.... REALLY.?.... That's not a friend.....And again... it goes both ways, if my friend is in need, I'm there....don't even think about it. I'm there, what you need boo?, who can I call for you?, can I get some SALVE, VASELINE, OR ALOE PLANT TO RUB ON YOUR BURNT UP ASS SCALP,
I got you!!!!! And third..... and I always say, money and friendships never mix, HOWEVER.... times are rough, folk gettin put out their homes, cars repossessed etc.... etc...... and sometimes you can be short,
AS MY DADDY WOULD SAY....30 CENTS SHY OF A QUARTER.... is that "friend" someone who will offer to help without you even asking?. It's the thought sometimes, and I do not recommend money borrowing from friends because Lord knows I have heard horror stories about folks, EVEN BLOOD, and KIN, hell my own family arguing, yelling and ultimately STOP TALKING over 200 dollars. OVER 200 HUNDRED LOUSY ASS DOLLARS?!!!!..... REALLY?..... that again is an entirely NOTHA BLOG.....
Just to offer someone who is in need means alot and again you should have the type of relationship with your friends to let them know you have that for them if they need it.
These are just a few questions you should ask yourself when looking at the relationships you have in your own life. It's always important to check and re check the circle you keep around you. I don't know who it was who said it, but you truly are THE COMPANY YOU KEEP. And..... if you are the type of person who desires to live with purpose, to really BE OF SOMETHING as one of my best friends mom's says..... then
IT IS EVEN MORE critical to take an inventory on your circle of friends. If a person is on a "come up" or is always back in the cut trying to figure out what they can get from a situation, that is not a friend! That my dear is a LEACH, a user, and quite frankly an automatic DELETE FROM ANY AND ALL COMMUNICATIONS!!!! If a person is narcissistic meaning everything AND I MEAN EVERYTHING, no matter what ends up being about them? That is not a friend, that is JUST PLAIN ANNOYING. And if the climate of your life takes a turn for the worse meaning, you either lose your job, lose a relationship, your income or status changes or you suffer a health crisis or worst.... HELL.... WHAT'S IS WORSE than all that I JUST NAMED? THOSE ARE SOME OF THE WORST THINGS TO HAPPEN TO A PERSON... but if things fall apart and the dust settles and that so called friend is no where to be found? Guess what? that's just a blessing, because one thing about people.... if you wait long enough THEY WILL REVEAL THEIR TRUE SELVES. and that revelation could be THAT BLESSING you needed.
Keep your circle like I keep my bra straps..... TIGHT!! Ask yourself....What about my friends? What about them? Are they true blue or...AM I ,A TRUE FRIEND? Are they only around for a season? Its an inventory we all should take from time to time.
Well thats my 2cents, as always.... This thing you living? THIS AIN'T NO DRESS REHEARSAL....
.Get life.....
Love it, enjoy it and treasure your friends!
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